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| breaking the cycle of abuse: Stop Hurting the Woman You Love Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, 2010-06-28 A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking. End the cycle of abuse - for good. Authors Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood and Elaine Eldridge uncover a proven action plan that violent men can use to change their behavior. Filled with insightful questionnaires and actual case histories, the essential how-to book Stop Hurting the Woman You Love, will help end abusive patterns in favor of healthier, happier relationships. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Beverly Engel, 2015-10-23 This “clear, empathetic self-help book . . . is an excellent choice for readers who come from an abusive past and are struggling to make a brighter future”(Publishers Weekly). If you were emotionally, physically, or sexually abused as a child or adolescent, or if you experienced neglect or abandonment, it isn't a question of whether you will continue the cycle of abuse but rather a question of how--whether you will become an abuser or continue to be a victim. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, a leading expert on emotional and sexual abuse, explains how to stop the cycle of abuse once and for all. Her step-by-step program provides the necessary skills for gaining control over emotions, changing negative attitudes, learning healthy ways of communicating, healing the damage from prior abuse, and seeking out support. Throughout, Engel shares many dramatic personal stories including her own experiences with abusive behavior. Breaking the Cycle of Abuse gives you the power to shatter abusive patterns for good and offers a legacy of hope and healing for you and your family. “A beacon of hope for women and men who fear that they will pass the abuse they have suffered on to their children, partners, or employees.” —Lundy Bancroft, author of When Dad Hurts Mom and Why Does He Do That? “In this remarkably powerful, wise, and compassionate book, Beverly Engel . . . offers expert advice and strategies to help parents and would-be parents avoid doing to their children what was done to them and helps both abusers and victims in emotionally and physically abusive relationships make vitally important changes in their relationships.” —Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of Toxic Parents and Emotional Blackmail |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking Cycles-A Story of Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Jenarda Makupson, 2021-10-22 This is a story of how a teenagers life was shattered from abuse, Teenage Pregnancy and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). She walks you through the drama and near death situations from betrayal, that she never expected her life would become.Growing up in California around the music industry lifestyle of singers she always thought she would have a great life, have the fairytale lifestyle and live happily ever after. Well, life was far from that. Instead she kept on running into cycles of abuse that continued to get worse. Every form of abuse you can imagine. Until tragedy ended it all. After her life of abuse, she had developed a desire to help others. She felt a breath of fresh air after finally moving on, sharing that experience with others became her focus. She points out very important steps to take that are helpful for domestic violence and abuse victims to break the cycle. Her hopes is that this book will give courage and hope to victims or even someone that has a friend or relative going through it. Inspire them to break the cycle, like she did and live a happier and healthier life. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle Zane, 2009-11-24 An eagerly awaited collection of stories dealing with domestic abuse, edited by the New York Times bestselling author Zane. Breaking the Cycle is a stunning and moving anthology of stories, each of which focuses on an aspect of domestic abuse. This powerful collection is sure to serve as a wake-up call for people either dealing with a domestic abuse situation, or those watching someone else endure it. In the title story, Zane describes the turmoil that a young girl suffers at the hands of her stepfather. The girl and her mother plan their escape, but at the last minute the mother falters. In D.V. Bernard's The Lonely Echoes of My Youth, readers are introduced to a young boy raising himself on the fringes of a drug-infested neigborhood. Nane Quartay's provocative story, The Grindstone, describes a boy who witnesses a brutal murder which will have far-reaching effects on him and his family. Tracy Price-Thompson weaves a powerful tale in The Stranger when a woman constantly abused by her husband finds inner strength after a brutal attack. Collen Dixon's The Break of Dawn will keep readers deep in thought long after they finish reading her story about a young desperate mother terrifed that her own daughter will grow up and become victimized herself. Dywane D. Birch's Victory Begins With Me reflects how one woman has to struggle to get her life back to normal. Shonda Cheekes' Silent Suffering flips the script when a man finds himself abused by the female in his life. Newcomer J.L. Woodson's God Does Answer Prayers deals with a young boy fighting for his life in a hospital bed, put there by one of the people who is supposed to love him the most: a parent. These stories capture the dangerous realities of domestic abuse, while also pointing toward the steps that need to be taken to break the cycle that perpetuates it. It is sure to serve as a rallying cry for all those who desire victory over their own victimization, and a guide for understanding the complex undercurrents that make such patterns possible. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Child Abuse Christine Comstock Herbruck, 1979 |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Angry Men and the Women who Love Them Paul Hegstrom, 2004 An invaluable aid for the man who batters, the woman who feels trapped, and the pastor, counselor, or friend who desperately wants to help them both... |
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| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking Cycles- a Story of Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Jenarda Makupson, 2021-10-22 In Breaking Cycles Jenarda Makupson tells her story of how her life was shattered from abuse and domestic violence. She walks you through near death situations that she never expected her life would become.Growing up in California around the Motown lifestyle of RnB singers she always thought she would be a singer or an actress, have the white picket fence fairytale lifestyle and live happily ever after. Well life was far from that. Instead she kept on running into cycles of abuse that continued to get worse. Every form of abuse you can imagine. Until it all ended. After that life of abuse Jenarda knew that she had to help others to fill the breath of fresh air that she had a chance to feel after moving on. She points out very important steps to take that are helpful for domestic violence and abuse victims to break the cycle. Her hopes is that this book will give courage and hope to victims or even someone that has a friend or relative going through it. Inspire them to break the cycle, like she did and live a happier and healthier life. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Invisible Target Andrea Clemens, 2015-03-03 Invisible Target is a true, detailed account of one girl's experience of educator sexual abuse at the hands of her middle school teacher. It follows her journey, beginning with her tumultuous childhood, meeting the teacher, and the grooming process he created to lure her into a false sense of trust and ultimate betrayal. After years of abuse and manipulation, she finally found the courage to bravely break away from her abuser. With excerpts from newspaper articles and an actual court impact statement, this book gives you a clear picture of how the epidemic of educator sexual abuse begins, progresses, and affects so many innocent lives. Invisible Target is more than a memoir. With thought-provoking questions at the close of each chapter, this book serves as a strong educational tool for students, parents, teachers, and administrators by shedding light on the dynamics of educator sexual abuse so that school can be a safe haven for every child. I highly recommend that Invisible Target be read and discussed in every school community in the country. -John M. Seryak, M.Ed. This book can help students identify predators, parents to support their children, and educators to prevent abuse. -Charol Shakeshaft, Ph.D. Although the topic is obviously very disturbing and disheartening, Andrea's story is one of hope. -Robert J. Shoop, Ph.D. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Beyond Bullying Jonathan Fast, 2016 - Why are some kids magnets for bullying? - Why do gay teens commit suicide four times as frequently as straight teens? - Why do we have more men and women in prison than any other country in the world? - Why are school shootings and acts of domestic terrorism on the rise? What could possibly be the theme that ties all of these questions together, which provides a window into so many aspects of the darker aspects of human behavior? In a word, shame. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Silence Joseph Blase, Jo Blase, 2003 This book exposes the various manifestations of mistreatment of teachers by principals, offering practical solutions for its prevention and correction. Information comes from a study involving interviews with elementary and secondary teachers from rural, suburban, and urban areas across the United States and Canada. The book provides tools necessary to identify destructive behavior and raises awareness of this common phenomenon in order to break the cycle of abuse. Key features include real-life examples and testimonials; specific forms and indicators of mistreatment, categorized into three levels; descriptions of the effects on schools and teachers, professionally and personally; and solutions for overcoming this problem. Seven chapters focus on: (1) The Problem of Principal Mistreatment of Teachers; (2) The Many Faces of Moderate Mistreatment: From Discounting Teacher to Offensive Personal Conduct; (3) Escalating Mistreatment of Teachers: From Spying to Criticism; (4) Severe Mistreatment of Teachers: From Lying to Destruction; (5) The Effects of Principal Mistreatment of Teachers: Lasting Wounds and Damaged Schools; (6) Worlds of Pain: The Undoing of Teachers; and (7) Overcoming the Problem of Principal Mistreatment of Teachers: What Can We Do? (Contains approximately 225 references.) (SM). |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Now Is Everything Amy Giles, 2017-11-07 * A Bank Street Best Children's Book of 2017 * A Georgia Peach Book Award Nominee * Read the book New York Times bestselling author Amber Smith calls “powerful and haunting,” and acclaimed author Peter Brown Hoffmeister calls “beautiful and sad.” Now Is Everything is a stirring debut novel told in alternating THEN and NOW chapters, perfect for Sarah Dessen and Jennifer Niven fans, about what one girl is willing to do to protect her past, present, and future. The McCauleys look perfect on the outside. But nothing is ever as it seems, and this family is hiding a dark secret. Hadley McCauley will do anything to keep her sister safe from their father. But when Hadley’s forbidden relationship with Charlie Simmons deepens, the violence at home escalates, culminating in an explosive accident that will leave everyone changed. When Hadley attempts to take her own life at the hospital post-accident, her friends, doctors, family, and the investigator on the case want to know why. Only Hadley knows what really happened that day, and she’s not talking. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Circle of Satanic Ritual Abuse Daniel Ryder, 1992 The first comprehensive recovery book to address the issues surrounding satanic cult ritual abuse--what it is, what the signs are, how to recover from it, and what is being done to combat this growing problem. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship Beverly Engel, 2002-11-29 Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out. -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for theemotionally abusive relationship In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offersstep-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping bothvictims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful andtraumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individualsand for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotionalabuse. -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotionalabuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showingeach party what emotional abuse is, how it affects therelationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamicrelationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp thetools for change and really use them. -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of BPDCentral.com The number of people who become involved with partners who abusethem emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves isphenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form ofabuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world'sleading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to doabout it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that youmight be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both youand your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book isfor you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how toidentify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of yourbehavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps toheal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow youand your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst ineach other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to helpthemselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stopabusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expertguidance and support you need. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycles of Hatred Martha Minow, 2009-01-10 Violence so often begets violence. Victims respond with revenge only to inspire seemingly endless cycles of retaliation. Conflicts between nations, between ethnic groups, between strangers, and between family members differ in so many ways and yet often share this dynamic. In this powerful and timely book Martha Minow and others ask: What explains these cycles and what can break them? What lessons can we draw from one form of violence that might be relevant to other forms? Can legal responses to violence provide accountability but avoid escalating vengeance? If so, what kinds of legal institutions and practices can make a difference? What kinds risk failure? Breaking the Cycles of Hatred represents a unique blend of political and legal theory, one that focuses on the double-edged role of memory in fueling cycles of hatred and maintaining justice and personal integrity. Its centerpiece comprises three penetrating essays by Minow. She argues that innovative legal institutions and practices, such as truth commissions and civil damage actions against groups that sponsor hate, often work better than more conventional criminal proceedings and sanctions. Minow also calls for more sustained attention to the underlying dynamics of violence, the connections between intergroup and intrafamily violence, and the wide range of possible responses to violence beyond criminalization. A vibrant set of freestanding responses from experts in political theory, psychology, history, and law examines past and potential avenues for breaking cycles of violence and for deepening our capacity to avoid becoming what we hate. The topics include hate crimes and hate-crimes legislation, child sexual abuse and the statute of limitations, and the American kidnapping and internment of Japanese Latin Americans during World War II. Commissioned by Nancy Rosenblum, the essays are by Ross E. Cheit, Marc Galanter, Fredrick C. Harris, Judith Lewis Herman, Carey Jaros, Frederick M. Lawrence, Austin Sarat, Ayelet Shachar, Eric K. Yamamoto, and Iris Marion Young. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: What Parents Need to Know about Sibling Abuse Vernon R. Wiehe, 2002 Parents will benefit from this invaluable guide on how siblings interact in today's world, and sometimes cross the line. By reading this book, parents will learn how to identify and prevent abusive behavior, and know when to intervene. the author brings together his many years of study and experience to show how to break the cycle of violence. Is what happens in your family just normal sibling rivalry or could it be called sibling abuse? This instructive guide will help you answer this question and help you break any cycle of violence, verbal or physical. the practical suggestions in this book will protect your children now, and help them become responsible adults. You will learn: How to identify abusive behavior How to prevent abuse in your home How to know when to intervene Vernon R. Wiehe, Ph.D. is a professor in the College of Social Work at the University of Kentucky. He is the author of over fifty articles in social science journals as well as numerous books. Dr. Wiehe has lectured extensively on the subject of family violence to audiences in the United States and abroad. He has appeared on numerous television and radio talk shows discussing the subject of family relationships. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle James Richards, 2008 Are you tired of repeating the same cycle? Do you feel like what you do is never good enough? Are negative feelings robbing your life of joy? Do you sometimes feel that you can't find the light at the end of the tunnel? Do you want to be in control and predict your own future? Are you ready for the roller coaster to end and the good life to begin? Millions of people have these same feelings. You are not alone. But you can end your repeated struggles and break out of destructive cycles. Put an end to the frustration and begin to live your dreams. Everyone wants to enjoy a good life-a life of peace and happiness void of chaos! However, the sense of lack drives us into our never-ending cycles...Two steps forward, one step back. Up and down, In and Out. Mountain peak to valley. Like a hamster in a wheel, it never ends! It's time to get off the wheel. This incredible book by Dr. Jim Richards will give you the tools to face life with new confidence. On each page, you will find new keys to personal empowerment. You will transform your self-worth. You will disconnect from the feelings of lack and inadequacy. Your life will become a constant process from good to great! Discover the life-changing secrets of personal empowerment that have brought transformation to millions of people around the world. Breaking the Cycle provides the keys. You can end your destructive patterns today! |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: All Things New Erin McCole Cupp, 2021-05 It's time to break the cycle. Not every family is the perfect model of Catholic family life. Some of us approach parenting still wounded by childhood experiences that were less than ideal. When we start our own families, at best we feel a bit unprepared, and at worst we feel paralyzed with fear that we will repeat our parents' dysfunctional, abusive behaviors. In All Things New, Erin McCole Cupp draws on her own and others' experiences to discuss how to develop a joyful family life when our own experience of being parented was damaging. Erin wrote this book for moms and dads who want to parent better than they themselves were parented. Drawing on the Holy Family as the model of family life, and distilling practical lessons from the Two Greatest Commandments and the Beatitudes, All Things New shows readers that, while change isn't easy, God has given us all the ingredients we need to create a holy, joyful family. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Child Abuse, Domestic Violence, and Animal Abuse Frank R. Ascione, Phil Arkow, 1999 Evidence is mounting that animal abuse, frequently embedded in families scarred by domestic violence and child abuse and neglect, often predicts the potential for other violent acts. As early intervention is critical in the prevention and reduction of aggression, this book encourages researchers and professionals to recognize animal abuse as a significant problem and a human public-health issue that should be included as a curriculum topic in training. The book is an interdisciplinary source book of original essays that examines the relations between animal maltreatment and human interpersonal violence, expands the scope of research in this growing area, and provides practical assessment and documentation strategies to help professionals confronting violence do their jobs better by attending to these connections. As an outgrowth of the Latham Foundation's 1995 training manual, Breaking the Cycles of Violence, this book is a historic step in helping professionals from these disciplines, as well as the general public, recognize the cyclical and insidious nature of family violence and provides training in recognizing peripheral forms of family violence outside a family's immediate purview. It encourages cross-disciplinary prevention and intervention strategies with an ultimate goal of reducing the levels of violence which is such a great societal and cultural concern today. This book brings together, for the first time, all of the leaders in this emerging field. They examine contemporary research and programmatic issues, encourage cross-disciplinary interactions, and describe innovative programs in the field today. Also included are vivid first-person accounts from survivors whose experiences included animal maltreatment among other forms of family violence. Child Abuse, Domestic Violence, and Animal Abuse provides professional communities of psychologists and child welfare specialists with a deeper, higher, and more encompassing awareness and understanding of the crucial linking of caring for animals and children in human experience. The combination of careful research, documentation, and compelling narrative accounts are blended into a rich resource to help professionals, concerned citizens, and parents understand how the ethics of caring are not bounded by species. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Transgressed Xavier L. Guadalupe-Diaz, 2019-10-22 Transgender survivors of violence tell their stories Transgender people face some of the highest rates of violence in the US and around the world, particularly within romantic relationships. In Transgressed, Xavier L. Guadalupe-Diaz offers a ground-breaking examination of intimate partner violence in the lives of transgender people. Drawing on interviews and written accounts from transgender survivors of intimate partner violence, he sheds much-needed light on the dynamics of abuse that entrap trans partners in violent relationships. Transgressed shows how rigidly gendered discussions of violence have served to marginalize and silence stories of abuse. Ultimately, these stories of survival follow their unique journeys as they navigate—and break free—from the cycle of abuse, providing us with a better understanding of their experiences. An emotionally compelling read, Transgressed offers new ways of understanding the complexities of intimate partner violence through the eyes of transgender survivors. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle George Collins, Andrew Adleman, 2011-10-01 Anyone who has struggled with sex addiction knows that living with constant sexual compulsions can be extremely difficult. But summoning the courage to find help for this condition can be even more of a challenge. If addictions to pornography, strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes, phone sex, or chat rooms have made you feel trapped, this book can help you find a way to break free. Written by a former sex addict who specializes in counseling people who suffer from sexually compulsive behavior, Breaking the Cycle presents a step-by-step plan to enjoying a life of productivity and purpose. You can free yourself from the powerful, compulsive urges that may have damaged your career, finances, or relationships with friends and family. The exercises in this book will show you how to regain control of your life and build meaningful intimate connections with others. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Silence Daniel Pearse, 2020-09-13 The latest statistics tell us that one out of three girls and one out of six boys will be sexually abused before the age of eighteen, destroying their lives in ways we can't even imagine. We also know that 90 percent of the time, victims know their abuser. Daniel Pearse is living proof of both these statistics. He and his brother were sent to live with a pedophile after their mother died. For nine years, Daniel suffered sexual, physical, emotional, mental, and verbal abuse at the hands of his tormentor. Like many abused children, Daniel then suffered in silence for decades as an adult. Now, he's committed to stopping the cycle of abuse that causes so much pain. Breaking the Cycle of Silence proposes age-appropriate sexual abuse training and education in schools. It teaches children what is appropriate, shows adults the signs of abuse to look for, and offers sources of support for victims. With such training and education, we can identify and stop abusers, preventing them from claiming victim after victim for years. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Crawling Out Casey Morley, 2014-06-18 How does a child know what is acceptable or unacceptable? Normal or abnormal? Good or bad? That children aren't slaves or women aren't beaten? How do they get out of something they don't know they're in? Crawling Out is a true account of the life of a child raised within a dysfunctional family filled with abuse, domestic violence, and alcoholism that continued well into her adult life. Author Casey Morley has spent the last twenty-five years coping with and crawling out from abuse, working hard to break the cycle to end generations of dysfunction and give her son a chance. Her story chronicles some of the abuse and follows her as she deletes what she was taught and fights to shed fifty-plus years of shame and guilt that weren't hers to carry. Often dismissed and devalued as a child, Casey defied the odds and overcame a deep sense of worthlessness, unmasked the secrecy many victims carry, and learned to forgive. Through each struggle, you'll endure Casey's pain, admire her strength and courage, and feel her mother's love as she fought to make life better for her son. Her story seeks to awaken you to the truth about children robbed of their innocence and the toll abuse takes on their lives, often setting them up to repeat history. With awareness as a society, we have the ability to end domestic violence. Crawling Out is that first step. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: AARP Healing Your Emotional Self Beverly Engel, 2011-12-19 AARP Digital Editions offer you practical tips, proven solutions, and expert guidance. In Healing Your Emotional Self, Beverly Engel provides a program to help readers raise their self-esteem, quiet their inner critic, and overcome their shame. Those who were emotionally abused or neglected in childhood tend to suffer from self-criticism, low self-esteem, self-doubt, a poor body image, perfectionism, and unhealthy shame. Now renowned psychotherapist Beverly Engel presents a psychologically sound, step-by-step program to help adult survivors heal the damage to their self-image caused by negative parental messages and treatment. Healing Your Emotional Self shows readers how to become reunited with their true self, quiet their inner critic, raise their self-esteem, and begin to love their body. Engel also teaches survivors how to separate emotionally from their parents and provide for themselves what they missed as a child. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Suffering in Silence Latifah Hameen, 2006-06 Touching, Uplifting and Inspiring This book is designed for you to feel the hurt, love and witness the struggles of my life. The experience of pain will be felt through my words, but evidence will be seen of strength, endurance and persistence that kept me working and moving toward a path of healing. God was truly the force and strength behind it all. Illustrated will be a consistent pattern of the abuse cycle, and then you'll notice how I slowly came through each relationship with a little more knowledge of abuse and a better understanding of myself. Eventually, I realized the love I searched for all my life had to start inside of me. I had to nourish me with love before I could give or expect it from anyone else. Through my years of suffering in silence, I've learned to break the cycle of abuse and continue to develop SELF-LOVE. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: The Macho Paradox Jackson Katz, 2019-06-04 A fully revised and updated edition to a classic bestseller, The Macho Paradox is the first book to show how violence against women is a men's issue—and how all genders can come together to stop it. From the #MeToo movement to current discussions about gender norms in schools, sports, politics, and media culture, The Macho Paradox incorporates the voices and experiences of the women, men, and others who have confronted the problem of gender violence from all angles. Bestselling author Jackson Katz is a pioneering educator and activist on the topic of men's violence against women. In this revised edition of his heralded book, Katz outlines the ways in which cultural ideas about manhood contribute to men's sexually harassing and abusive behaviors and that men have a positive role to play in challenging and changing the sexist cultural norms that too often lead to gender violence. This important book for abused women covers topics ranging from mental and emotional abuse to sexual harassment to domestic violence and is a vital read for women with controlling partners or as a self-help book for men. Praise for The Macho Paradox: A candid look at the cultural factors that lend themselves to tolerance of abuse and violence against women.—Booklist If only men would read Katz's book, it could serve as a potent form of male consciousness-raising.—Publishers Weekly These pages will empower both men and women to end the scourge of male violence and abuse. Katz knows how to cut to the core of the issues, demonstrating undeniably that stopping the degradation of women should be every man's priority.—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Flat Broke with Children Sharon Hays, 2004-11-04 This text explores the impact of recent welfare reform on motherhood, marriage, and work in women's lives. It also focuses on what welfare reform reveals about work and family life, and its impact on us all. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Why Does He Do That? Lundy Bancroft, 2003-09-02 In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship. He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You’ve asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men—and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about: • The early warning signs of abuse • The nature of abusive thinking • Myths about abusers • Ten abusive personality types • The role of drugs and alcohol • What you can fix, and what you can’t • And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely “This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives.”—Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Abuse Catherine L. Scott, 1988 |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Child Abuse Christine Comstock Herbruck, 1979 |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: It Wasn't Your Fault Beverly Engel, 2015-01-02 Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it’s important for you to know that it wasn’t your fault. In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this book, you’ll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences. Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination. This book is based on the author’s powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this book, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You’ll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you’ll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion—pride. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Mascupathy Charlie Donaldson, Randy Flood, 2014-06-01 Men often behave badly, and it's easy to assume that's just the way they are. Some can be grandiose and aggressive; many others are good guys but emotionally absent and relationally disappointing. Psychologists Charlie Donaldson and Randy Flood contend, however, that most men's behavior is neither capricious or malevolent, but a product of a socialized disorder mascupathy - an exaggeration of the genetically masculine traits (aggression and invulnerability) and minimal expression of inherently feminine characteristics (openness and sensitivity). Committed to helping men achieve rich, engaged lives, the authors propose a revolutionary way to think about men. Mascupathy shines a bright light of understanding, revealing unexpected transformations of men in stirring clinical accounts. This is an eye, mind, and heart-opening book full of compelling reasons to feel optimistic about the future of men and the people who love them. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue V. E. Schwab, 2020-10-06 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER USA TODAY BESTSELLER NATIONAL INDIE BESTSELLER THE WASHINGTON POST BESTSELLER Recommended by Entertainment Weekly, Real Simple, NPR, Slate, and Oprah Magazine #1 Library Reads Pick—October 2020 #1 Indie Next Pick—October 2020 BOOK OF THE YEAR (2020) FINALIST—Book of The Month Club A “Best Of” Book From: Oprah Mag * CNN * Amazon * Amazon Editors * NPR * Goodreads * Bustle * PopSugar * BuzzFeed * Barnes & Noble * Kirkus Reviews * Lambda Literary * Nerdette * The Nerd Daily * Polygon * Library Reads * io9 * Smart Bitches Trashy Books * LiteraryHub * Medium * BookBub * The Mary Sue * Chicago Tribune * NY Daily News * SyFy Wire * Powells.com * Bookish * Book Riot * Library Reads Voter Favorite * In the vein of The Time Traveler’s Wife and Life After Life, The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue is New York Times bestselling author V. E. Schwab’s genre-defying tour de force. A Life No One Will Remember. A Story You Will Never Forget. France, 1714: in a moment of desperation, a young woman makes a Faustian bargain to live forever—and is cursed to be forgotten by everyone she meets. Thus begins the extraordinary life of Addie LaRue, and a dazzling adventure that will play out across centuries and continents, across history and art, as a young woman learns how far she will go to leave her mark on the world. But everything changes when, after nearly 300 years, Addie stumbles across a young man in a hidden bookstore and he remembers her name. Also by V. E. Schwab Shades of Magic A Darker Shade of Magic A Gathering of Shadows A Conjuring of Light Villains Vicious Vengeful At the Publisher's request, this title is being sold without Digital Rights Management Software (DRM) applied. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: The Battered Woman Syndrome Lenore E. Walker, 2001-07-26 In this latest edition of her groundbreaking book, Dr. Lenore Walker has provided a thorough update to her original findings in the field of domestic abuse. Each chapter has been expanded to include new research. The volume contains the latest on the impact of exposure to violence on children, marital rape, child abuse, personality characteristics of different types of batterers, new psychotherapy models for batterers and their victims, and more. Walker also speaks out on her involvement in the O.J. Simpson trial as a defense witness and how he does not fit the empirical data known for domestic violence. This volume should be required reading for all professionals in the field of domestic abuse. For Further Information, Please Click Here! |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Silence Elizabeth Celi, 2011 This book will rebuild your lifeWhen it seems all hope is gone, as though no one will ever understand and you can't see a way forward, this book opens the door and breaks the silence. This book provides a heads up to men (& women) sharing insights and strategies to navigate the jungle of confusion and isolation to get you back on your feet and safely moving forward, in peace.You’ll learn:* The psychology of her anger* Step by step guide to managing her sugar coated viper tongue* 5 steps to avoid when verbally defending yourself* Tips for saving your relationship or having a stress-less divorce* Tips for keeping the kids safe* 3 mistakes to avoid when navigating the legal minefield* The psychology of being your own man without apology It's natural to blame yourself and consider yourself a fool. It isn't all your fault and you're no less of a man for experiencing this. You walked into a minefield of unspoken expectations where confusion and abuse then took over. Your kids need your stabilising force and your friends want the good ol' you back. While it all seems hopeless, you can piece your life together again, you can resume your natural manhood and you will rebuild your life, in fact, stronger than ever. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Breaking the Cycle of Hurtful Family Relationships Robert McGee, 2015-08-12 We learn about much of life from our first and primary role models - our parents, who are imperfect persons. They model beliefs and behaviors they learned from their own imperfect parents. And on and on the cycle goes. Sometimes those ideas about life, ourselves, others, and God are faulty, and we and our relationships suffer. What's more, we continue this faulty and sometimes damaging cycle for future generations. Help your group members identify these harmful patterns in order to experience healthy relationships with others. Help them learn how God, by speaking to us through His Word, can help us reshape false perceptions of Him and His Word so we can experience His love, forgiveness, and power in all of life's circumstances.This guide powerfully assists you in leading your group or individual members on their journey . |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Abused Men Philip W. Cook, 2009-02-24 An award-winning investigative journalist provides a disturbing new look at an underreported type of domestic violence—the abuse of men. The first edition of Philip W. Cook's book, Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence (Praeger, 1997), drew attention and praise nationwide from individuals and from media, ranging from CNN and Fox network's The O'Reilly Factor to scholarly publications such as The Journal of Marriage and Family. On the 10th anniversary of that groundbreaking book, Cook began revising and expanding his work. The result is this second edition—a disturbing look at a trend that continues to increase. The new edition of Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence offers up-to-date data on the prevalence of intimate partner violence against men, incorporating personal interviews and cases drawn from the media. It also includes updates on law, legislation, court activity, social responses, police activity, support groups, batterer programs, and crisis intervention programs. The final chapter contains a detailed and specific description of needed reforms in the current approach to intimate partner violence, whether the victims are male or female. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Transforming Trauma Anna Salter, 1995-05-31 Practitioners helping adult survivors of child sexual abuse need to be aware of the thought processes of offenders. The premise of Anna Salter's major book is that those who do not recognize an internalized perpetrator when they hear one will often be frustrated by the tenacity of the survivor's self blame. Primarily oriented towards treating adult survivors, this invaluable book will also be useful for treating sex offenders. It includes discussion of crucial issues such as: what clinicians who treat survivors need to know about sex offenders; the different ways sadistic and nonsadistic offenders think and the resulting different `footprints' they leave in the heads of survivors; how trauma affects survivors' world-views; |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Trigger Points Joyelle Brandt, Dawn Daum, 2015-11-05 Trigger Points Anthology is a collection of writing by parents who are survivors of childhood abuse. Editors Joyelle Brandt and Dawn Daum are survivors of childhood abuse working to break the cycle for their own families. Raising children as an abuse survivor is often a lonely and isolating experience, as the triggers and flashbacks of abuse can be hard for non-survivors to understand. When they were looking for stories of how other survivors coped, and couldn't find any, they decided that something needed to change. So together they started an online community specifically for parent survivors, and started collecting essays to create the Trigger Points Anthology. A book where survivors of all forms of childhood abuse could talk about what it is like to be a parent when your own childhood was so traumatic. Parenting when you experienced childhood abuse often feels like walking back into a war zone as a soldier with PTSD. There are flashbacks and triggers everywhere, and most parents are completely blindsided by them because no one tells us that this can happen. Our Mission 1. To let survivor parents know that they are not alone, and that what they are experiencing is a perfectly normal reaction for those with a history of childhood trauma. 2. To educate health care and social service providers who work with parents about common triggers are that arise for survivor parents. 3. To help partners and families of abuse survivors understand what we are going through. |
| breaking the cycle of abuse: Loving Him without Losing You Beverly Engel, 2001-06-01 Are you a Disappearing Woman? Beverly Engel has identified a widespread problem and provided women with wise guidelines for bursting through it. She writes with compassion and insight. If you think you are a Disappearing Woman, you will drink in this book as if it were a health-giving elixir. It is!-Susan Page, author of How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together and If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? This remarkably helpful book offers new insights into why so many women surrender their individuality in relationships. Don't wait until your hair is on fire to read it.-Maxine Schnall, founder and Executive Director of Wives Self Help A book of depth and power. I highly recommend it not only to women who lose themselves in their relationships with men but to the parents of adolescent girls who need to be taught how to view themselves as valuable beings separate from their relationships with men and boys.-Michael Gurian, author of The Good Son and A Fine Young Man Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover's needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair? Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men-and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance. |
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