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| shame in the therapy hour: Shame in the Therapy Hour Ronda L. Dearing, June Price Tangney, 2011 Excessive shame can be associated with poor psychological adjustment, interpersonal difficulties, and overall poor life functioning. Consequently, shame is prevalent among individuals undergoing psychotherapy. Yet, there is limited guidance for clinicians trying to help their clients deal with shame-related concerns. This book explores the manifestations of shame and presents several approaches for treatment. It brings together the insights of master clinicians from different theoretical and practice orientations, such as psychodynamics, object relations, emotion-focused therapy, functional analysis, group therapy, family therapy, and couples therapy. The chapters address all aspects of shame, including how it develops, how it relates to psychological difficulties, how to recognize it, and how to help clients resolve it. Strategies for dealing with therapist shame are also provided, since therapist shame can be triggered during sessions and can complicate the therapeutic alliance. With rich, detailed case studies in almost every chapter, this book will be a practical resource for clinicians working with a broad range of populations and clinical problems. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Shame and Guilt June Price Tangney, Ronda L. Dearing, 2003-11-01 This volume reports on the growing body of knowledge on shame and guilt, integrating findings from the authors' original research program with other data emerging from social, clinical, personality, and developmental psychology. Evidence is presented to demonstrate that these universally experienced affective phenomena have significant implications for many aspects of human functioning, with particular relevance for interpersonal relationships. --From publisher's description. |
| shame in the therapy hour: It's Not Always Depression Hilary Jacobs Hendel, 2018-02-06 Fascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self. Sara suffered a debilitating fear of asserting herself. Spencer experienced crippling social anxiety. Bonnie was shut down, disconnected from her feelings. These patients all came to psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeking treatment for depression, but in fact none of them were chemically depressed. Rather, Jacobs Hendel found that they’d all experienced traumas in their youth that caused them to put up emotional defenses that masqueraded as symptoms of depression. Jacobs Hendel led these patients and others toward lives newly capable of joy and fulfillment through an empathic and effective therapeutic approach that draws on the latest science about the healing power of our emotions. Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement). Fully experiencing core emotions allows us to enter an openhearted state where we are calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear. In It’s Not Always Depression, Jacobs Hendel shares a unique and pragmatic tool called the Change Triangle—a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true self. In these pages, she teaches lay readers and helping professionals alike • why all emotions—even the most painful—have value. • how to identify emotions and the defenses we put up against them. • how to get to the root of anxiety—the most common mental illness of our time. • how to have compassion for the child you were and the adult you are. Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients’ remarkable breakthroughs. She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame Patricia A. DeYoung, 2015-02-11 Chronic shame is painful, corrosive, and elusive. It resists self-help and undermines even intensive psychoanalysis. Patricia A. DeYoung’s cutting-edge book gives chronic shame the serious attention it deserves, integrating new brain science with an inclusive tradition of relational psychotherapy. She looks behind the myriad symptoms of shame to its relational essence. As DeYoung describes how chronic shame is wired into the brain and developed in personality, she clarifies complex concepts and makes them available for everyday therapy practice. Grounded in clinical experience and alive with case examples, Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame is highly readable and immediately helpful. Patricia A. DeYoung’s clear, engaging writing helps readers recognize the presence of shame in the therapy room, think through its origins and effects in their clients’ lives, and decide how best to work with those clients. Therapists will find that Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame enhances the scope of their practice and efficacy with this client group, which comprises a large part of most therapy practices. Challenging, enlightening, and nourishing, this book belongs in the library of every shame-aware therapist. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Counselling Skills for Working with Shame Christiane Sanderson, 2015-08-21 Counselling Skills for Working with Shame helps professionals to understand and identify shame and to build shame resilience in both the client and themselves. Shame is ubiquitous in counselling where there is an increased vulnerability and risk of exposure to shame. While many clients experience feelings of shame, it is often overlooked in the therapeutic process and as a result can be left untreated. It is particularly pertinent when working with clients who have experienced trauma, domestic or complex abuse, or who struggle with addiction, compulsion and sexual behaviours. Written in an accessible style, this is a hands-on, skills-based guide which helps practitioners to identify what elicits, evokes or triggers shame. It gives a general introduction to the nature of shame in both client and counsellor and how these become entwined in the therapeutic relationship. It focuses on increasing awareness of shame and how to release it in order to build shame resilience. With points for reflection, helpful exercises, top tips, reminders and suggestions for how to work with clients, this is a highly practical guide for counsellors, therapists, mental health practitioners, nurses, social workers, educators, human resources, trainee counsellors and students. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Emotion Rituals David W. McMillan, 2007-12-11 Cognitive behavior therapy does not typically include the use of emtion in its treatment protocols. Emotion Rituals addresses this omission with a thorough discussion of the interplay between thoughts and emotions as vital to the therapeutic process. McMillan's emotion rituals allow clients to apply what they learn in therapy sessions to daily life, fostering continual growth outside of the therapy hour and increasing the effectiveness of each session. McMillan's unique writing style imparts hard facts and theoretical discussion in a conversational tone, presenting new and complicated ideas in a readable and comprehensible manner. Each chapter is devoted to one emotion, and the rituals are suitable for use by both client and therapist, allowing them each to better understand emotion and emotional responses. The result is an accessible and lively text that offers an original approach to healing through feelings. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Shame-Informed Therapy: Treatment Strategies to Overcome Core Shame and Reconstruct the Authentic Self Patti Ashley, 2020-07-07 |
| shame in the therapy hour: Guilt, Shame, and Anxiety Peter Roger Breggin, 2014 With the first unified theory of guilt, shame, and anxiety, this pioneering psychiatrist and critic of psychiatric diagnoses and drugs examines the causes and effects of psychological and emotional suffering from the perspective of biological evolution, child development, and mature adult decision-making. Drawing on evolution, neuroscience, and decades of clinical experience, Dr. Breggin analyzes what he calls our negative legacy emotions-the painful emotional heritage that encumbers all human beings. The author marshals evidence that we evolved as the most violent and yet most empathic creatures on Earth. Evolution dealt with this species-threatening conflict between our violence and our close-knit social life by building guilt, shame, and anxiety into our genes. These inhibiting emotions were needed prehistorically to control our self-assertiveness and aggression within intimate family and clan relationships. Dr. Breggin shows how guilt, shame, and anxiety eventually became self-defeating and demoralizing legacies from our primitive past, which no longer play any useful or positive role in mature adult life. He then guides the reader through the Three Steps to Emotional Freedom, starting with how to identify negative legacy emotions and then how to reject their control over us. Finally, he describes how to triumph over and transcend guilt, shame, and anxiety on the way to greater emotional freedom and a more rational, loving, and productive life. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Soul of Shame Curt Thompson, 2015-08-26 Whether we realize it or not, shame affects every aspect of our lives. But God is telling a different story. Curt Thompson unpacks the soul of shame, revealing its ubiquitous nature and neurobiological roots while providing the theological and practical tools necessary to dismantle shame. Embrace healing and wholeness as you find freedom from the negative messages that bind you. |
| shame in the therapy hour: When Therapy Isn't Enough Heather Gorr, 2020-12-03 When Therapy Isn’t Enough integrates both personal and professional experiences to, for the first time, illuminate the intersection of Christianity and self-help. So many Christians and non-religious people are searching for the actual Word of God as the center to their daily lives, their reasons, and their purpose, and they don’t even know it. They want something less preachy, less shame-based, and more centered on the heart of God and what he stands for. When you focus on the Word of God, it is simple, it is fearless, it is non-religious, and it is practical. Heather allows believers and non-believers to come together in a way that no one feels judged. This book is designed to draw people into an understanding of God’s nature and sovereignty so they can be set free. Heather takes Christianity and makes it less threatening, less guilt-based, less exclusionary, and more welcoming, more accepting, and more inclusive. She connects all of our fears, worries, and trauma and shows us the tools to live a full life in spite of our experiences. This book blends both faith and psychology into a practical yet sustainable method of looking inward and upward for real “self-help.” When you have looked everywhere to no avail, maybe you haven’t looked to the One who can sustain you. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Healing the Shame that Binds You John Bradshaw, 2005-10-15 This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author. I used to drink, writes John Bradshaw,to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed. Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Counseling Issues George Seber, 2013-02-09 Here is a comprehensive handbook of twenty-two chapters covering all the major issues a counsellor or psychotherapist might meet in the counseling room. The book is very practical and is based on sound psychological principles. It provides a wealth of ideas for counseling and for structuring a series of counseling sessions. It is particularly accessible to the inexperienced counsellor or psychotherapist who is often looking for some guidance on a particular topic without having to read a whole book on the subject or read something more technical. The book covers basic emotional issues such as anger, shame, anxiety, stress, grief, depression, anxiety disorders, and suicide risk, and behavioural issues like addiction, phobias, and compulsive behaviours such as self-harm and obsessive compulsive disorder. There are also chapters on relationship issues such as divorce, abuse of various kinds, dysfunctional relationships, adoption, blended families, and strategies for couple counseling. There are two chapters on personality disorders. A biblical viewpoint is added at the end of each chapter for the Christian counsellor and pastor. There is an extensive list of about 500 references along with internet references throughout, providing a rich source for further reading. The chapters are mainly independent with minimum cross-referencing. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Landscapes of the Heart Juliet Grayson, 2016-07-01 In this book, teacher and psychotherapist Juliet Grayson gives us privileged access to her unique client sessions. Following several couples' journeys through psychosexual therapy to more loving relationships, we witness her rich blend of life-changing approaches, including Pesso Boyden System Psychomotor (PBSP), the potent new methodology she has helped to pioneer in the UK. Exploring both the practical and theoretical aspects of her work, Juliet shakes our assumptions and shows ways to improve and ultimately heal our most intimate relationships. This is a ground-breaking book, valuable for lay readers and therapists alike. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Quiet Profession Anne Alonso, 1985 |
| shame in the therapy hour: Shame Paul Gilbert, Bernice Andrews, 1998-08-27 One of the most commonly reported emotions in people seeking psychotherapy is shame, and this emotion has become the subject of intense research and theory over the last 20 years. In Shame: Interpersonal Behavior, Psychopathology, and Culture, Paul Gilbert and Bernice Andrews, together with some of the most eminent figures in the field, examine the effect of shame on social behavior, social values, and mental states. The text utilizes a multidisciplinary approach, including perspectives from evolutionary and clinical psychology, neurobiology, sociology, and anthropology. In Part I, the authors cover some of the core issues and current controversies concerning shame. Part II explores the role of shame on the development of the infant brain, its evolution, and the relationship between shame as a personal and interpersonal construct and stigma. Part III examines the connection between shame and psychopathology. Here, authors are concerned with outlining how shame can significantly influence the formation, manifestation, and treatment of psychopathology. Finally, Part IV discusses the notion that shame is not only related to internal experiences but also conveys socially shared information about one's status and standing in the community. Shame will be essential reading for clinicians, clinical researchers, and social psychologists. With a focus on shame in the context of social behavior, the book will also appeal to a wide range of researchers in the fields of sociology, anthropology, and evolutionary psychology. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Managing Therapy-interfering Behavior Alexander Lawrence Chapman, M. Zachary Rosenthal, 2016 A vital tool for clinicians to help identify and manage therapy-interfering behavior using a dialectical behavior therapy framework. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Tales of Psychotherapy Jane E. Ryan, 2007 Anyone with a faint curiosity about human nature will be enthralled by these remarkable stories. Based on true experience, or re-worked into fictional short stories, this book takes the reader through a mesmerizing sequence of compelling pieces that reveal the innermost concerns of psychotherapy practice.The anthology, written by both psychotherapists and prize winning fiction authors, is a book of surprise, delight, anguish and hope. It draws on one of the most intimate conversations that a human being can achieve - that of the psychoanalytic hour - and gives these encounters a fascinating context in the form of people's lives. Some of these stories give strong evidence for the efficacy of psychotherapy - how by listening to someone's most private desires, remarkable transformations can occur. Others ask the reader to consider the fallibility or vulnerability of the therapist and their own concerns and lives. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Evil Hours David J. Morris, 2015-01-20 “An essential book” on PTSD, an all-too-common condition in both military veterans and civilians (The New York Times Book Review). Post-traumatic stress disorder afflicts as many as 30 percent of those who have experienced twenty-first-century combat—but it is not confined to soldiers. Countless ordinary Americans also suffer from PTSD, following incidences of abuse, crime, natural disasters, accidents, or other trauma—yet in many cases their symptoms are still shrouded in mystery, secrecy, and shame. This “compulsively readable” study takes an in-depth look at the subject (Los Angeles Times). Written by a war correspondent and former Marine with firsthand experience of this disorder, and drawing on interviews with individuals living with PTSD, it forays into the scientific, literary, and cultural history of the illness. Using a rich blend of reporting and memoir, The Evil Hours is a moving work that will speak not only to those with the condition and to their loved ones, but also to all of us struggling to make sense of an anxious and uncertain time. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Emotion in Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Matthew Tull, Nathan Kimbrel, 2020-01-31 Emotion in Posttraumatic Stress Disorder provides an up-to-date review of the empirical research on the relevance of emotions, such as fear, anxiety, shame, guilt, and disgust to posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It also covers emerging research on the psychophysiology and neurobiological underpinnings of emotion in PTSD, as well as the role of emotion in the behavioral, cognitive, and affective difficulties experienced by individuals with PTSD. It concludes with a review of evidence-based treatment approaches for PTSD and their ability to mitigate emotion dysfunction in PTSD, including prolonged exposure, cognitive processing therapy, and acceptance-based behavioral therapy. - Identifies how emotions are central to understanding PTSD. - Explore the neurobiology of emotion in PTSD. - Discusses emotion-related difficulties in relation to PTSD, such as impulsivity and emotion dysregulation. - Provides a review of evidence-based PTSD treatments that focus on emotion. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Velvet Rage Alan Downs, 2006-04-25 The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, Are we really better off? The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a fa?ade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion Dennis Tirch, Benjamin Schoendorff, Laura R. Silberstein, 2014-12-01 Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) is proven effective in the treatment of an array of disorders, including addiction, depression, anxiety, self-harm, eating disorders, and more. Evidence shows that mindfulness and acceptance exercises help clients connect with the moment, uncover their true values, and commit to positive change. But did you know that compassion focused exercises can also greatly increase clients’ psychological flexibility? More and more, therapists are finding that the act of compassion—both towards oneself and towards others—can lead to greater emotional and physical well-being, increased distress tolerance, and a broader range of effective responses to stressful situations. One of the best advantages of compassion focused methods is how easily they can be integrated into an ACT approach. An important addition to any ACT professional’s library, The ACT Practitioner’s Guide to the Science of Compassion explores the emotionally healing benefits of compassion focused practices when applied to traditional acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). This book offers case conceptualization, assessments, and direct clinical applications that integrate ACT, functional analytic psychotherapy, and compassion focused therapy to enhance your clinical practice. This is the first book on the market to provide an in-depth discussion of compassion in the context of ACT and other behavioral sciences. The integrative treatment model in this book provides powerful transdiagnostic tools and processes that will essentially build bridges across therapies. If you are ready for a new, easily integrated range of techniques that can be used for a variety of treatment applications, this guide will prove highly useful. And if you are looking to build on your previous experience with cognitive and behavioral therapies, this book will help to enhance your treatment sessions with clients and increase their psychological flexibility. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Ask a Manager Alison Green, 2018-05-01 From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together |
| shame in the therapy hour: Shame and Creativity Vibeke Skov, 2017-08-23 Shame and Creativity: From Affect Towards Individuation is about shame and the ways in which we can use creative methods to transform shame into a lifelong process of self-development. Using a Jungian understanding of the personal and collective unconscious, shame is described as a key affect in relation to self-worth and quality of life. The book is divided into three parts. Part One is about shame, based on affect theory, Jungian psychology and psychological creativity. Part Two discusses shame in relation to seven primary affects, introducing the ‘Blue Diamante model’ to describe how shame is often hidden behind other affects and suggesting that all affects must be involved in processing shame. Part Three identifies the steps in the ‘Blue Diamante model’ with the ancient myth of Inanna’s descent to the underworld; it discusses the development of the original self behind shame and presents a new model for transforming the relationship between the masculine and feminine aspects of the psyche, together with art therapy methods. The originality of Shame and Creativity lies in its combination of affect theory, Jungian psychology and a creative methodology. It aims to inspire clinicians to recognize shame and to work more directly with shame as it appears in therapy. The book will be of great interest to art therapists and students of art therapy. It will also appeal to all readers interested in creativity, shame, Jungian analysis and affect theory. |
| shame in the therapy hour: One Hour in Paris Karyn L. Freedman, 2014-04-21 A powerful memoir, Karyn L. Freedman’s One Hour in Paris is a harrowing yet inspirational journey through suffering and recovery both personal and global. On a Paris night in 1990 when Karyn L. Freedman was just twenty-two, she was brutally raped. In the wake of the violent encounter, she found herself in a French courtroom, a Toronto trauma center, and a rape clinic in Africa. Her life was forever changed. At a time when as many as one in three women in the world have been victims of sexual assault and when many women are still ashamed to come forward, Freedman’s book is a moving and essential look at how survivors cope and persevere. At once deeply intimate and terrifyingly universal, One Hour in Paris weaves together Freedman’s personal experience with philosophical, neuroscientific, and psychological insights on what it means to live in a traumatized body. Using her philosopher’s background, she studies the history of psychological trauma, drawing on theories of post-traumatic stress disorder and neuroplasticity to show how recovery from horrific experiences is possible. Through frank discussions of sex and intimacy, she explores the consequences of sexual violence for love and relationships, illustrating the steep personal cost and the obstacles faced by individual survivors in its aftermath. Freedman’s book is an urgent call to face this fundamental social problem head-on, arguing that we cannot continue to ignore the fact that sexual violence against women is rooted in gender inequalities that exist worldwide—and must be addressed. One Hour in Paris is essential reading for sexual violence survivors and an invaluable resource for therapists, mental health professionals, and family members and friends of victims. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Three Minute Therapy Michael Edelstein, Ph.D., David Ramsay Steele, Ph.D., 2018-09-25 Three Minute Therapy can help to change your life for the better. You will find yourself looking at life in a different way. Your emotional troubles will seem less mysterious and less powerful. If you take the trouble to learn the techniques explained in Three Minute Therapy, think about them, and apply them to your problems, you will be able to tackle difficulties that may have seemed impossible. Some of your worst fears and anxieties can diminish or dissolve away, and you will become more effective at pursuing your chosen life goals. The techniques used in Three Minute Therapy show you, clearly and simply, how you needlessly upset yourself, and it gives you many thinking, feeling, and action methods of reducing your disturbances while still retaining your main goals, values, and preferences. Three Minute Therapy can add years of healthier and happier living to your life. This book will show you how to change your thinking and change your life! |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Bright Side of Shame Claude-Hélène Mayer, Elisabeth Vanderheiden, 2019-04-25 This book provides new ideas on how to work with and constructively transform shame on a theoretical and practical level, and in various socio-cultural contexts and professions. It provides practical guidelines on dealing with shame on the basis of reflection, counselling models, exercises, simulations, specific psychotherapeutic approaches, and auto-didactical learning material, so as to transform shame from a negatively experienced emotion into a mental health resource. The book challenges theorists to adopt an interdisciplinary stance and to think “outside the box.” Further, it provides practitioners, such as coaches, counsellors, therapists, trainers and medical personnel, with practical tools for transforming negative experiences and emotions. In brief, the book shows practitioners how to unlock the growth potential of individuals, teams, and organisations, allowing them to develop constructively and positively. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Compassionate Mind Paul Gilbert, 2010 Leading depression authority Paul Gilbert presents The Compassionate Mind, a breakthrough book integrating evolutionary psychology, new insights from neuroscience, and mindfulness practice. This combination of techniques forms a new therapy called compassion focused therapy that can enhance readers' lives. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Hours of Torture, Years of Silence Teresa Lauer, 1998 Takes the reader on an emotional journey through three years of therapy after rape. The author confides her raw fears, providing a gripping account of the sexual assault and its haunting aftermath. Her story powerfully articulates that a rape victim can not only survive but triumph. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Connections Brené Brown, 2009 Connections Curriculum |
| shame in the therapy hour: Group Christie Tate, 2020-10-27 A REESE’S BOOK CLUB PICK * NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER The refreshingly original and “startlingly hopeful” (Lisa Taddeo) debut memoir of an over-achieving young lawyer who reluctantly agrees to group therapy and gets psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—and finds human connection, and herself. Christie Tate had just been named the top student in her law school class and finally had her eating disorder under control. Why then was she driving through Chicago fantasizing about her own death? Why was she envisioning putting an end to the isolation and sadness that still plagued her despite her achievements? Enter Dr. Rosen, a therapist who calmly assures her that if she joins one of his psychotherapy groups, he can transform her life. All she has to do is show up and be honest. About everything—her eating habits, childhood, sexual history, etc. Christie is skeptical, insisting that that she is defective, beyond cure. But Dr. Rosen issues a nine-word prescription that will change everything: “You don’t need a cure. You need a witness.” So begins her entry into the strange, terrifying, and ultimately life-changing world of group therapy. Christie is initially put off by Dr. Rosen’s outlandish directives, but as her defenses break down and she comes to trust Dr. Rosen and to depend on the sessions and the prescribed nightly phone calls with various group members, she begins to understand what it means to connect. “Often hilarious, and ultimately very touching” (People), Group is “a wild ride” (The Boston Globe), and with Christie as our guide, we are given a front row seat to the daring, exhilarating, painful, and hilarious journey that is group therapy—an under-explored process that breaks you down, and then reassembles you so that all the pieces finally fit. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Dare to Lead Brené Brown, 2018-10-09 #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Brené Brown has taught us what it means to dare greatly, rise strong, and brave the wilderness. Now, based on new research conducted with leaders, change makers, and culture shifters, she’s showing us how to put those ideas into practice so we can step up and lead. Don’t miss the five-part Max docuseries Brené Brown: Atlas of the Heart! ONE OF BLOOMBERG’S BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas, and has the courage to develop that potential. When we dare to lead, we don’t pretend to have the right answers; we stay curious and ask the right questions. We don’t see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it with others. We don’t avoid difficult conversations and situations; we lean into vulnerability when it’s necessary to do good work. But daring leadership in a culture defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty requires skill-building around traits that are deeply and uniquely human. The irony is that we’re choosing not to invest in developing the hearts and minds of leaders at the exact same time as we’re scrambling to figure out what we have to offer that machines and AI can’t do better and faster. What can we do better? Empathy, connection, and courage, to start. Four-time #1 New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown has spent the past two decades studying the emotions and experiences that give meaning to our lives, and the past seven years working with transformative leaders and teams spanning the globe. She found that leaders in organizations ranging from small entrepreneurial startups and family-owned businesses to nonprofits, civic organizations, and Fortune 50 companies all ask the same question: How do you cultivate braver, more daring leaders, and how do you embed the value of courage in your culture? In Dare to Lead, Brown uses research, stories, and examples to answer these questions in the no-BS style that millions of readers have come to expect and love. Brown writes, “One of the most important findings of my career is that daring leadership is a collection of four skill sets that are 100 percent teachable, observable, and measurable. It’s learning and unlearning that requires brave work, tough conversations, and showing up with your whole heart. Easy? No. Because choosing courage over comfort is not always our default. Worth it? Always. We want to be brave with our lives and our work. It’s why we’re here.” Whether you’ve read Daring Greatly and Rising Strong or you’re new to Brené Brown’s work, this book is for anyone who wants to step up and into brave leadership. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Therapy Toolkit: Sixty Cards for Self-Exploration Linn Martinsen, 2021-08-24 |
| shame in the therapy hour: Verity Colleen Hoover, 2021-10-05 Whose truth is the lie? Stay up all night reading the sensational psychological thriller that has readers obsessed, from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Too Late and It Ends With Us. #1 New York Times Bestseller · USA Today Bestseller · Globe and Mail Bestseller · Publishers Weekly Bestseller Lowen Ashleigh is a struggling writer on the brink of financial ruin when she accepts the job offer of a lifetime. Jeremy Crawford, husband of bestselling author Verity Crawford, has hired Lowen to complete the remaining books in a successful series his injured wife is unable to finish. Lowen arrives at the Crawford home, ready to sort through years of Verity’s notes and outlines, hoping to find enough material to get her started. What Lowen doesn’t expect to uncover in the chaotic office is an unfinished autobiography Verity never intended for anyone to read. Page after page of bone-chilling admissions, including Verity's recollection of the night her family was forever altered. Lowen decides to keep the manuscript hidden from Jeremy, knowing its contents could devastate the already grieving father. But as Lowen’s feelings for Jeremy begin to intensify, she recognizes all the ways she could benefit if he were to read his wife’s words. After all, no matter how devoted Jeremy is to his injured wife, a truth this horrifying would make it impossible for him to continue loving her. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Self-Conscious Emotions Jessica L. Tracy, Richard W. Robins, June Price Tangney, 2013-11-27 Timely and authoritative, this volume reviews the breadth of current knowledge on the self-conscious emotions and their role in psychological and social functioning. Leading investigators approach the subject from multiple levels of analysis, ranging from basic brain mechanisms to complex social processes. Chapters present compelling advances in research on the most fundamental self-conscious emotions: embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, pride, and shame. Addressed are neural and evolutionary mechanisms, developmental processes, cultural differences and similarities, and influences on a wide array of social behaviors and personality processes. A unique chapter on assessment describes and evaluates the full range of available measures. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The Many Faces of Shame Donald L. Nathanson, 1987-06-01 For almost a century the concept of guilt, as embedded in drive theory, has dominated psychoanalytic thought. Increasingly, however, investigators are focusing on shame as a key aspect of human behavior. This volume captures a range of compelling viewpoints on the role of shame in psychological development, psychopathology, and the therapeutic process. Donald Nathanson has assembled internationally prominent authorities, engaging them in extensive dialogue about their areas of expertise. Concise introductions to each chapter place the authors both historically and theoretically, and outline their emphases and contributions to our understanding of shame. Including many illustrative clinical examples, the book covers such topics as the relationship between shame and narcissism, shame's central place in affect theory, psychosis and shame, and shame in the literature of French psychoanalysis and philosophy. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Thrive Richard Layard, David M. Clark, 2014-07-03 A ground-breaking argument for better treatment of mental health from Richard Layard (author of Happiness) and David M. Clark. Britain has become a world leader in providing psychological therapies thanks to the work of Richard Layard and David Clark. But, even so, in Britain and worldwide the majority of people who need help still don't get treatment. This is both unjust and a false economy. This book argues for change. It shows that mental ill-health causes more of the suffering in our society than physical illness, poverty or unemployment. Moreover, greater spending on helping people to recover from mental health problems - and stay well - would generate massive savings to national economies, as those who suffer from depression and anxiety disorders account for nearly a half of all disability and are predominantly of working age. Modern talking therapies, such as CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy), are highly effective, and if more sufferers got these treatments, lives would be turned around and the cost would be fully covered by the huge savings. Thrive explores the new effective solutions to the misery and injustice caused by mental illness. It describes how successful psychological treatments have been developed and explains what works best for whom. It also urges us to do all we can to prevent these problems in the first place, through better schools and a better society. And, most importantly, it offers real hope. 'This book is an inspiring success story and a stirring call to further action. Its message is as compelling as it is important: the social costs of mental illness are terribly high and the costs of effective treatments are surprisingly low' Daniel Kahneman 'Extremely easy and pleasurable to read. It's the most comprehensive, humane and generous study of mental illness that I've come across' Melvyn Bragg 'Remarkable . . . presents the issues in a style that easy for the professional, the general public, and policy makers to understand' Aaron T Beck 'Professors Layard and Clark (the Dream Team of British Social Science) make a compelling case for a massive injection of resources into the treatment and prevention of mental illness. This is simply the best book on public policy and mental health ever written' Martin Seligman RICHARD LAYARD is one of the world's leading labour economists, and in 2008 received the IZA International Prize for Labour Economics. A member of the House of Lords, he has done much to raise the public profile of mental health. His 2005 book Happiness has been translated into 20 languages. DAVID M. CLARK, Professor of Psychology at Oxford, is one of the world's leading experts on CBT, responsible for much progress in treatment methods. With Richard Layard, he was the main driver behind the UK's Improving Access to Psychological Therapies programme. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Deliberate Practice for Psychotherapists Tony Rousmaniere, 2024-08-30 This book explores how psychotherapists can use deliberate practice to improve their clinical effectiveness. By sourcing through decades of research on how experts in diverse fields achieve skill mastery, this book shows it is possible for any therapist to dramatically improve their clinical skills. To improve, therapists must focus on clinical challenges and reconsider century-old methods of clinical training from the ground up. This second edition traces recent developments in research and presents a step-by-step program to engage readers in deliberate practice to improve clinical effectiveness across the therapists’ entire career span, from beginning training for graduate students, to continuing education for licensed and advanced clinicians. Enriched with insightful clinical experiences and anecdotes, Deliberate Practice for Psychotherapists is an important read for graduate students, trainees, and practicing psychotherapists. |
| shame in the therapy hour: Working with Emotions in Psychotherapy Leslie S. Greenberg, Sandra C. Paivio, 2003-07-29 In previous books, Leslie S. Greenberg has demonstrated the importance of integrating emotional work into therapy and has laid out a compelling model of therapeutic change. Building on these foundations, WORKING WITH EMOTIONS IN PSYCHOTHERAPY sheds new light on the process and technique of intervention with specific emotions. Filled with illustrative case examples, the book shows clinicians how to identify a given emotion, discern its role in a client's self-understanding, and understand how its expression is furthering or inhibiting the client's progress. Of vital importance, the authors help readers think more differentially about emotions; to distinguish, for example, between avoided emotional pain and chronic dysfunctional bad feelings, between adaptive sadness and maladaptive depression, and between overcontrolled anger and underregulated rage. A conceptual overview and framework for intervention are delineated, and special attention is given throughout to the integration of emotion and cognition in therapeutic work. |
| shame in the therapy hour: The One-Hour Miracle Andrew Hahn, Joan Beckett, 2022-04-05 A revolutionary healing framework that is a blueprint for transforming most problems, ranging from the most pedestrian to the most treatment resistant. And sometimes, the transformation simply takes one hour. The One-Hour Miracle: A 5-Step Process to Guide Your Self-Healing presents the revolutionary Life-Centered Therapy (LCT), a healing framework that is a blueprint for transforming most problems--physical (such as chronic pain, asthma, addictions), emtional and mental (including depresssion, PTSD, OCD, paranoia) relational (releasing destructive patterns), and spiritual (alienation, despair, inertia), And sometimes, the transformation simply takes one hour. Filled with testimonials of real-life people who have benefitted from this approach when other attempts to end their suffering turned up fruitless, it provides people with an entirely new way of understanding their suffering, giving them inspiration and hope that they can create miracles in their lives. The One-Hour Miracle includes a protocol that allows people to facilitate this process on their own by finding the root cause of their suffering and shifting it. This framework helps them live engaged lives of freedom, peace, joy, wisdom, and vitality. In the book, co-authors Andrew Hahn, PsyD, and Joan Beckett, LMHC, will teach readers how to do this work for themselves and others. With step-by-step instructions, readers are led through a five-step process, an integration of mindfulness and body-centered therapy, that guides them through their own self-healing practices and how to do them. In addition, therapists who are reading the book will have enough information to immediately start using the approach with clients without needing more training |
| shame in the therapy hour: Corrupt Penelope Douglas, 2023-11-07 Dreams might be a heart’s desire, but nightmares are its obsession in the first novel of a dark romance series from New York Times bestselling author Penelope Douglas. Erika Fane’s boyfriend's older brother is handsome, strong, and completely terrifying. The star of his college's basketball team gone pro, he's more concerned with the dirt on his shoe than he is with her. But she saw him. She heard him. The things that he did, and the deeds that he hid... For years, Erika bit her nails, unable to look away. Now, she’s in college, but she hasn’t stopped watching him. He’s bad and the things she’s seen aren’t content to stay in her head anymore. Because he's finally noticed her. But Michael Crist knows the hold he has on Rika, how much she fears him. She looks down when he enters the room and stills when he’s close. He knows she thinks only of him. When Michael’s brother leaves for the military, leaving Rika alone and unprotected, he knows the opportunity is too good to be true. Three years ago she put Michael’s friends in prison, and now they’re free. Every last one of her nightmares is about to come true. |
Shame: Definition, Types, Effects, and Ways to Cope - Verywell Mind
Jun 28, 2023 · Shame is a feeling of embarrassment about having done something wrong. Learn the psychology behind shame, its symptoms, and how shame is different than guilt.
9 Things You Need to Know About Shame - Psychology Today
Nov 1, 2021 · Here are nine things you need to know about shame and some tips for how to feel less of it. 1. Shame and guilt are different emotions. You feel guilty when you think you’ve done …
SHAME Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
The meaning of SHAME is a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety. How to use shame in a sentence.
Shame - Wikipedia
Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. [1]
Shame (2011) - IMDb
Shame: Directed by Steve McQueen. With Michael Fassbender, Lucy Walters, Mari-Ange Ramirez, James Badge Dale. A nymphomaniac's carefully cultivated private life falls apart after …
Shame: Definition, Examples, Causes, & How to Cope
Nov 28, 2023 · Shame describes feelings of inadequacy created by internalized negative self-beliefs. Personal insecurities, secrets, mistakes, and perceived flaws can all trigger shame …
Shame: Causes, examples, and ways to heal | therapist.com
May 15, 2024 · Shame causes us to feel negatively about ourselves, which can have a lasting effect on mental health. Here’s how to recognize and move through shame.
APA Dictionary of Psychology
Apr 19, 2018 · Shame may motivate not only avoidant behavior but also defensive, retaliative anger. Psychological research consistently reports a relationship between proneness to shame …
Shame: What It Is, Causes, Symptoms and Therapy | GoodTherapy
Sep 27, 2019 · Shame deeply impacts self-esteem and emotional health. Discover its causes, effects, and therapeutic strategies to rebuild self-worth and foster resilience.
What Is Shame? Everything you Need to Know | Psych Central
May 17, 2016 · After decades of obscurity — spent, Middelton-Moz says, confused with and overshadowed by guilt — shame is increasingly recognized as a powerful, painful and …
Shame: Definition, Types, Effects, and Ways to Cope - Verywell Mind
Jun 28, 2023 · Shame is a feeling of embarrassment about having done something wrong. Learn the psychology behind shame, its symptoms, and how shame is different than guilt.
9 Things You Need to Know About Shame - Psychology Today
Nov 1, 2021 · Here are nine things you need to know about shame and some tips for how to feel less of it. 1. Shame and guilt are different emotions. You feel guilty when you think you’ve done …
SHAME Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
The meaning of SHAME is a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety. How to use shame in a sentence.
Shame - Wikipedia
Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. [1]
Shame (2011) - IMDb
Shame: Directed by Steve McQueen. With Michael Fassbender, Lucy Walters, Mari-Ange Ramirez, James Badge Dale. A nymphomaniac's carefully cultivated private life falls apart after his sister …
Shame: Definition, Examples, Causes, & How to Cope
Nov 28, 2023 · Shame describes feelings of inadequacy created by internalized negative self-beliefs. Personal insecurities, secrets, mistakes, and perceived flaws can all trigger shame …
Shame: Causes, examples, and ways to heal | therapist.com
May 15, 2024 · Shame causes us to feel negatively about ourselves, which can have a lasting effect on mental health. Here’s how to recognize and move through shame.
APA Dictionary of Psychology
Apr 19, 2018 · Shame may motivate not only avoidant behavior but also defensive, retaliative anger. Psychological research consistently reports a relationship between proneness to shame and a …
Shame: What It Is, Causes, Symptoms and Therapy | GoodTherapy
Sep 27, 2019 · Shame deeply impacts self-esteem and emotional health. Discover its causes, effects, and therapeutic strategies to rebuild self-worth and foster resilience.
What Is Shame? Everything you Need to Know | Psych Central
May 17, 2016 · After decades of obscurity — spent, Middelton-Moz says, confused with and overshadowed by guilt — shame is increasingly recognized as a powerful, painful and potentially …
