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| ground rules for couples therapy: Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Fourth Edition Alan S. Gurman, 2008-06-24 This authoritative handbook provides a definitive overview of the theory and practice of couple therapy. Noted contributors--many of whom developed the approaches they describe--combine clear conceptual exposition with thorough descriptions of therapeutic techniques. In addition to presenting major couple therapy models in step-by-step detail, the book describes effective applications for particular populations and problems. Chapters adhere closely to a uniform structure to facilitate study and comparison, enhancing the book's utility as a reference and text. See also Clinical Casebook of Couple Therapy, also edited by Alan S. Gurman, which presents in-depth illustrations of treatment. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology) Julie Schwartz Gottman, John M. Gottman, 2015-10-26 From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: ACT with Love Russ Harris, 2023-06-01 Build more compassionate, accepting, and loving relationships with acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). Let’s face it: Picture-perfect storybook romances don’t exist in real life. Couples fight. Feelings of love wax and wane through the years. And the stress and tedium of everyday life and work can often drive a wedge between even the most devoted couples. So, how can you reignite passion and intimacy in your relationship, cultivate greater understanding and compassion between yourself and your partner, and bring the joy back to your love life? In this fully revised and updated edition of ACT with Love, therapist and world-renowned ACT expert Russ Harris shows how developing psychological flexibility—the ability to be in the present moment with openness, awareness, and focus, and to take effective action in line with one's values—can help you and your partner strengthen and deepen your relationship. Also included is new information on attachment theory, powerful mindfulness and self-compassion techniques, and assertiveness and boundary-setting skills. ACT with Love will show you how to: Let go of conflict, open up, and live fully in the present Use mindfulness to increase intimacy, connection, and understanding Resolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differences Act on your values to build a rich and meaningful relationship If you’re looking to increase feelings of intimacy, love, and connection with your partner, this book has everything you need to get started—together. |
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| ground rules for couples therapy: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work John Gottman, PhD, Nan Silver, 2015-05-05 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Handbook of Couples Therapy Michele Harway, 2005-01-21 The essential guide to successful couples therapy at every stage ofthe lifecycle A variety of therapeutic interventions can help couples developthe tools for a successful relationship. Yet many practitionersbegin seeing couples without extensive training in couples work. Tofill this gap in their therapeutic repertoires, noted couplestherapist Michele Harway brings together other well-known expertsin marriage and family therapy to offer the Handbook of CouplesTherapy, a comprehensive guide to the study and practice of couplestherapy. The book's chapters provide a variety of perspectives alongdevelopmental, theoretical, and situational lines. Recognizing theneed for clinically proven, evidence-based approaches, chaptersprovide detailed coverage of the most effective treatment modes.Couples at different stages of the lifecycle feature prominently inthe text, as do relevant special issues and treatment approachesfor each stage. Subjects covered include: Premarital counseling from the PAIRS perspective (an extensivecurriculum of interventions for premarital couples) The first years of marital commitment Couples with young children Couples with adolescents Therapy with older couples Same sex couples A variety of theoretical approaches, includingCognitive-Behavioral, Object Relational, Narrative, Integrative,and Feminist and Contextual Special issues and situations, including serious illness,physical aggression, addiction, infidelity, and religious/spiritualcommitments or conflicts Providing a diverse set of treatment approaches suited to workingwith a wide range of adult populations, the Handbook of CouplesTherapy is an essential resource for mental healthprofessionals working with couples. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: In Quest of the Mythical Mate Ellyn Bader, Peter Pearson, 2013-05-13 In Quest of the Mythical Mate presents a valuable and fertile developmental model for diagnosing and treating couples that is flexible enough to incorporate a wide variety of intervention strategies, yet purposeful enough to give a clear sense of direction to couples in distress. As such, this volume provides a powerful therapeutic approach for all professionals who treat couples. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Projective Identification and Psychotherapeutic Technique Thomas H. Ogden, 1982 An examination of projective identification and its clinical uses from a Kleinian perspective. The author puts forward the hypothesis that identification is the patient's way of mastering significant trauma. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Behavioral Couples Therapy for Alcoholism and Drug Abuse Timothy J. O'Farrell, William Fals-Stewart, 2012-03-12 This eminently practical guide presents an empirically supported approach for treating people with substance abuse problems and their spouses or domestic partners. Behavioral couples therapy (BCT) explicitly focuses on both substance use and relationship issues, and is readily compatible with 12-step approaches. In a convenient large-size format, the book provides all the materials needed to introduce BCT; implement a recovery contract to support abstinence; work with clients to increase positive activities, improve communication, and reduce relapse risks; and deal with special treatment challenges. Appendices include a session-by-session treatment manual and 70 reproducible checklists, forms, and client education posters. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The High-Conflict Couple Alan Fruzzetti, 2006-12-03 You hear and read a lot about ways to improve your relationship. But if you've tried these without much success, you're not alone. Many highly reactive couples—pairs that are quick to argue, anger, and blame—need more than just the run-of-the-mill relationship advice to solve their problems in love. When destructive emotions are at the heart of problems in your relationship, no amount of effective communication or intimacy building will fix what ails it. If you're part of a high-conflict couple, you need to get control of your emotions first, to stop making things worse, and only then work on building a better relationship. The High-Conflict Couple adapts the powerful techniques of dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) into skills you can use to tame out-of-control emotions that flare up in your relationship. Using mindfulness and distress tolerance techniques, you'll learn how to deescalate angry situations before they have a chance to explode into destructive fights. Other approaches will help you disclose your fears, longings, and other vulnerabilities to your partner and validate his or her experiences in return. You'll discover ways to manage problems with negotiation, not conflict, and to find true acceptance and closeness with the person you love the most. This book has been awarded The Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies Self-Help Seal of Merit — an award bestowed on outstanding self-help books that are consistent with cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) principles and that incorporate scientifically tested strategies for overcoming mental health difficulties. Used alone or in conjunction with therapy, our books offer powerful tools readers can use to jump-start changes in their lives. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Psychoanalytic Couple Therapy David E. Scharff, Jill Savege Scharff, 2018-05-01 In this time of vulnerable marriages and partnerships, many couples seek help for their relationships. Psychoanalytic couple therapy is a growing application of psychoanalysis for which training is not usually offered in most psychoanalytic and analytic psychotherapy programs. This book is both an advanced text for therapists and a primer for new students of couple psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Its twenty-eight chapters cover the major ideas underlying the application of psychoanalysis to couple therapy, many clinical illustrations of cases and problems in various dimensions of the work. The international group of authors comes from the International Psychotherapy Institute based in Washington, DC, and the Tavistock Centre for Couple Relationships (TCCR) in London. The result is a richly international perspective that nonetheless has theoretical and clinical coherence because of the shared vision of the authors. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Heart of Couple Therapy Ellen F. Wachtel, 2016-10-05 Grounded in a deep understanding of what makes intimate relationships succeed, this book provides concrete guidelines for addressing the complexities of real-world clinical practice with couples. Leading couple therapist Ellen Wachtel describes the principles of therapeutic interventions that motivate couples to alter entrenched patterns, build on strengths, and navigate the “legacy” issues that each person brings to the relationship. She illuminates the often unrecognized choices that therapists face throughout the session and deftly explicates their implications. The epilogue by Paul Wachtel situates the author's pragmatic approach in the broader context of contemporary psychotherapy theory and research. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Love Busters Willard F. Harley, 2008-05 This fifteenth anniversary edition helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy Gina Pera, Arthur L. Robin, 2016-01-08 Since ADHD became a well-known condition, decades ago, much of the research and clinical discourse has focused on youth. In recent years, attention has expanded to the realm of adult ADHD and the havoc it can wreak on many aspects of adult life, including driving safety, financial management, education and employment, and interpersonal difficulties. Adult ADHD-Focused Couple Therapy breaks new ground in explaining and suggesting approaches for treating the range of challenges that ADHD can create within a most important and delicate relationship: the intimate couple. With the help of contributors who are experts in their specialties, Pera and Robin provide the clinician with a step-by-step, nuts-and-bolts approach to help couples enhance their relationship and improve domestic cooperation. This comprehensive guide includes psychoeducation, medication guidelines, cognitive interventions, co-parenting techniques, habit change and communication strategies, and ADHD-specific clinical suggestions around sexuality, money, and cyber-addictions. More than twenty detailed case studies provide real-life examples of ways to implement the interventions. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Handbook of Marriage and Marital Therapy G. Pirooz Sholevar, 2013-11-11 |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Ground Rules in Psychotherapy and Counselling Robert Langs, 2019-03-14 Robert Langs has long been one of the most individual and controversial psychoanalytic theorists. In this book, he concentrates on one of the most prominent areas of his thought: his insistence upon adherence to strict rules for boundaries (or frames) in psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.Starting from the statement that Throughout the history of the universe, frames, contexts, rules, and boundaries have been vital aspects of the development and very existence of both physical structures and living organisms, Langs goes on to examine the profile of the issues of boundaries in psychoanalytic thought. He discusses Freud's technique papers on the subject, and goes on to elucidate his own approach, rooted in his thinking on evolutionary and adaptive processes which he has discussed in his previous work. Throughout the book, Langs gives both theoretical discussions and practical groundings of his ideas. As with his previous book, Doing Supervision and Being Supervised (1994), Robert Langs here brings his unique energy and viewpoint to bear on an important but little-examined topic. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Jealousy Workbook Kathy Labriola, 2013-09-13 From the initial stages of trying to agree who can do what with whom, through advanced issues such as coping with logistics and seeking compersion, every relationship sooner or later confronts jealousy – and some relationships do not survive the confrontation. Between these covers you will find forty-two exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counselor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Wired for Love Stan Tatkin, 2024-06-01 Invaluable for so many partners looking to reconnect and grow closer together. —Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop Stan Tatkin can be entirely followed into the towering infernos of our most painful relationship challenges. —Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, and wholeness advocate The complete “insider’s guide” to understanding your partner’s brain, sparking lasting connection, and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust—now with more than 170,000 copies sold. “What the heck is my partner thinking?” “Why do they always react like this?” “How can we get back that connection we had in the beginning?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you aren’t alone, and it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. Every person is wired for love differently—with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how. Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third—any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you strengthen your relationship by: Creating and maintaining a safe “couple bubble” Using morning and evening routines to stay connected Learning how to see your partner’s point of view Meeting each other halfway in a fight Becoming the expert on what makes your partner feel loved By using simple gestures and words, you’ll learn to put out emotional fires and help your partner feel appreciated and loved. You’ll also discover how to move past a “warring brain” mentality and toward a more cooperative “loving brain.” Most importantly, you’ll gain a better understanding of the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships. While there’s no doubt that love is an inexact science, if you understand how you and your partner are wired differently, you can overcome your differences, and create a lasting intimate connection. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies Brent Bradley, James Furrow, 2013-07-15 A practical, down-to-earth guide to using the world's most successful approach to couple therapy One of the most successful therapeutic approaches to healing dysfunctional relationships, emotionally focused couple therapy provides clients with powerful insights into how and why they may be suppressing their emotions and teaches them practical ways to deal with those feelings more constructively for improved relationships. Unlike cognitive-behavioural therapy, which provides effective short-term coping skills, emotionally focused therapy often is prescribed as a second-stage treatment for couples with lingering emotional difficulties. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy For Dummies introduces readers to this ground-breaking therapy, offering simple, proven strategies and tools for dealing with problems with bonding, attachment and emotions, the universal cornerstones of healthy relationships. An indispensable resource for readers who would like to manage their relationship problems independently through home study Delivers powerful techniques for dealing with unpleasant emotions, rather than repressing them and for responding constructively to complex relationship issues The perfect introduction to EFT basics for therapists considering expanding their practices to include emotionally focused therapy methods Packed with fascinating and instructive case studies and examples of EFT in action, from the authors' case files Provides valuable guidance on finding, selecting and working with the right EFT certified therapist |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Brief But Comprehensive Psychotherapy Arnold A. Lazarus, Arnold Lazarus, PhD, ABPP, 2006-03-16 The prestigious Arnold Lazarus modernizes his eclectic and goal-oriented approach to psychotherapy. Using his traditional acronym BASIC ID, he stresses the assessment of seven dimensions of a client's personality. This volume contains many ideas that will augment and enhance the skills and clinical repertoires of every therapist. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Ask a Manager Alison Green, 2018-05-01 From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Couples Therapy Workbook Kathleen Mates-Youngman, LMFT, 2014-10-01 Couples Therapy Workbook is a series of guided questions to promote meaningful couple conversations and build ongoing, connected communication. The core of this unique guide is 30 guided conversations of the most critical relationship struggles. For each of the 30 topics, there is an introduction, goal-setting strategies and 10 scripted questions to ask each other - all presented in an easy-to-use mindful style. Set in a weekly format over 30 days but can be tailored to any timeframe. Designed to be used to couples, and also by therapists working with couples (bonus clinician prep included with each conversation). Week 1- Who Are We? Falling in Love, Friendship, Caring, Acceptance, Empathy, Emotional Intimacy, Rituals Week 2 - Who Am I? Childhood, Family Origin, Temperament, Influences, Spirituality, Values, How I Think Week 3- How do we work? Communication, Conflict, Defensiveness, Intimacy, Trust, Fidelity and Boundaries, Parenting, Staying in Sync Week 4 - What do we want? Romance, Joy and Gratitude, respect, Apologies and Forgiveness, Challenges, Relationship Savings Account, Past, Present & Future, Keeping Connected Reviews: “What a unique resource! A treasure-trove of guided conversations to increase intimacy and friendship. Therapists often ask me for good homework assignments. This book does the thinking for you. Keep it on hand and whether its values, sex, conflict or other challenging issues, you'll have a ready-made way to help your clients make immediate progress.” -- Ellyn Bader, Ph.D, Founder/Director The Couples Institute This is a valuable resource for anyone working with couples. Any couple can profit greatly if they are willing to take Kathleen Youngman's challenge to explore these important topics and discuss these wonderful questions. -- Milan and Kay Yerkovich, Authors of best-selling How We Love series “Instead of offering analysis, advice or theory, The Couples Therapy Workbook offers just that, a set of questions to stimulate conversations that help couples deepen their engagement with each other and reconnect. All couples will find this an exceptional guide, and all therapists will find it an effective instrument to supplement the therapeutic process. I highly recommend it and complement the author on her creativity and attention to the core details of a connected relationship.” --Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D.; Authors of Making Marriage Simple and Getting the Love You Want. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Learning Psychotherapy Hilde Bruch, 1980 Bruch sets out to accomplish what has, until now, been all but impossible--the teaching of psychotherapy using the written word. Bruch's unique success at a task that has been tried and tried again, only to result in stereotyped do's and don'ts, stems from her own experiences with two great teachers: Harry Stack Sullivan and Frieda Fromm-Reichmann. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Model Rules of Professional Conduct American Bar Association. House of Delegates, Center for Professional Responsibility (American Bar Association), 2007 The Model Rules of Professional Conduct provides an up-to-date resource for information on legal ethics. Federal, state and local courts in all jurisdictions look to the Rules for guidance in solving lawyer malpractice cases, disciplinary actions, disqualification issues, sanctions questions and much more. In this volume, black-letter Rules of Professional Conduct are followed by numbered Comments that explain each Rule's purpose and provide suggestions for its practical application. The Rules will help you identify proper conduct in a variety of given situations, review those instances where discretionary action is possible, and define the nature of the relationship between you and your clients, colleagues and the courts. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Dare to Lead Brené Brown, 2018-10-09 #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Brené Brown has taught us what it means to dare greatly, rise strong, and brave the wilderness. Now, based on new research conducted with leaders, change makers, and culture shifters, she’s showing us how to put those ideas into practice so we can step up and lead. Don’t miss the five-part Max docuseries Brené Brown: Atlas of the Heart! ONE OF BLOOMBERG’S BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR Leadership is not about titles, status, and wielding power. A leader is anyone who takes responsibility for recognizing the potential in people and ideas, and has the courage to develop that potential. When we dare to lead, we don’t pretend to have the right answers; we stay curious and ask the right questions. We don’t see power as finite and hoard it; we know that power becomes infinite when we share it with others. We don’t avoid difficult conversations and situations; we lean into vulnerability when it’s necessary to do good work. But daring leadership in a culture defined by scarcity, fear, and uncertainty requires skill-building around traits that are deeply and uniquely human. The irony is that we’re choosing not to invest in developing the hearts and minds of leaders at the exact same time as we’re scrambling to figure out what we have to offer that machines and AI can’t do better and faster. What can we do better? Empathy, connection, and courage, to start. Four-time #1 New York Times bestselling author Brené Brown has spent the past two decades studying the emotions and experiences that give meaning to our lives, and the past seven years working with transformative leaders and teams spanning the globe. She found that leaders in organizations ranging from small entrepreneurial startups and family-owned businesses to nonprofits, civic organizations, and Fortune 50 companies all ask the same question: How do you cultivate braver, more daring leaders, and how do you embed the value of courage in your culture? In Dare to Lead, Brown uses research, stories, and examples to answer these questions in the no-BS style that millions of readers have come to expect and love. Brown writes, “One of the most important findings of my career is that daring leadership is a collection of four skill sets that are 100 percent teachable, observable, and measurable. It’s learning and unlearning that requires brave work, tough conversations, and showing up with your whole heart. Easy? No. Because choosing courage over comfort is not always our default. Worth it? Always. We want to be brave with our lives and our work. It’s why we’re here.” Whether you’ve read Daring Greatly and Rising Strong or you’re new to Brené Brown’s work, this book is for anyone who wants to step up and into brave leadership. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Clinical Casebook of Couple Therapy Alan S. Gurman, 2012-11-26 An ideal supplemental text, this instructive casebook presents in-depth illustrations of treatment based on the most important couple therapy models. An array of leading clinicians offer a window onto how they work with clients grappling with mild and more serious clinical concerns, including conflicts surrounding intimacy, sex, power, and communication; parenting issues; and mental illness. Featuring couples of varying ages, cultural backgrounds, and sexual orientations, the cases shed light on both what works and what doesn't work when treating intimate partners. Each candid case presentation includes engaging comments and discussion questions from the editor. See also Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Fourth Edition, also edited by Alan S. Gurman, which provides an authoritative overview of theory and practice. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Relationship Alphabet Zach Brittle, 2015-07-07 The Relationship Alphabet is an alphabetical survey of relationship topics based on the research of Dr. John Gottman. The book includes insights on communication, conflict management and friendship building. Practical discussion questions make it easy to turn ideas into action. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy Jay Lebow, Anthony Chambers, Douglas C. Breunlin, 2019-10-08 This authoritative reference assembles prominent international experts from psychology, social work, and counseling to summarize the current state of couple and family therapy knowledge in a clear A-Z format. Its sweeping range of entries covers major concepts, theories, models, approaches, intervention strategies, and prominent contributors associated with couple and family therapy. The Encyclopedia provides family and couple context for treating varied problems and disorders, understanding special client populations, and approaching emerging issues in the field, consolidating this wide array of knowledge into a useful resource for clinicians and therapists across clinical settings, theoretical orientations, and specialties. A sampling of topics included in the Encyclopedia: Acceptance versus behavior change in couple and family therapy Collaborative and dialogic therapy with couples and families Integrative treatment for infidelity Live supervision in couple and family therapy Postmodern approaches in the use of genograms Split alliance in couple and family therapy Transgender couples and families The first comprehensive reference work of its kind, the Encyclopedia of Couple and Family Therapy incorporates seven decades of innovative developments in the fields of couple and family therapy into one convenient resource. It is a definitive reference for therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, and counselors, whether couple and family therapy is their main field or one of many modalities used in practice. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Remarriage Manual Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, 2020-02-18 The 10 Keys to a Successful Remarriage Winner of the 2022 Independent Publisher Book Award in Gold for Self Help Winner of American Book Fest’s 2020 Best Book Award in “Self-Help: Relationships” Based on the author’s personal experience, over 30 years of clinical practice, knowledge from leading marriage and remarriage researchers, and 100 in-depth interviews of remarried people, The Remarriage Manual offers 10 essential keys to a successful remarriage: Build a Culture of Appreciation, Respect, and Tolerance. Negativity is toxic. Personal growth and love are possible when you can express appreciation through positive words and actions. Make Your Remarriage a Top Priority. Never underestimate the power of intentional time with your partner to increase physical and emotional intimacy. Ditch the Baggage from Your First Marriage. Learn ways to be more reflective and less reactive to triggers that hit raw spots or vulnerabilities stemming from prior relationships. Don’t Keep Secrets about Money. Remarried couples face complicated financial issues such as unequal assets, child support, alimony, and education costs for children and stepchildren. Honesty and full disclosure about finances are essential. Don’t Let Mistrust Stop You from Being Vulnerable and Emotionally Intimate. Learn that vulnerability and trust go hand in hand and the steps you can take to be authentic and intimate with your partner so you can achieve long-lasting love. Get Sexy and Fall in Love All Over Again. Given the stressors of a second marriage, it can be particularly challenging to stay sexually intimate. Yet moments of connection, such as touching, talking, or making love, are all part of the glue that holds a second marriage together. Don’t Make a Big Deal about Nothing . . . but Do Deal with Important Issues. Differences in beliefs, expectations, and conversational styles can cause you to blow things out of proportion and tune each other out. Effective communication will help you overcome these types of misunderstandings. Manage the Flames of Conflict. You can’t avoid disagreements entirely. What you can do, however, is learn how to manage them successfully to avoid the “blame game” so that they can nourish rather than drain your remarriage. Embrace Your Role as a Stepparent and Create Positive Stepfamily Memories. There is no such thing as instant love in a stepfamily. When biological parents are involved, the relationships can get even trickier. Learn to adjust to your role as a stepparent—the chances of a second marriage succeeding go way up when both partners adopt an attitude of “we’re in this together.” Say You’re Sorry and Mean It. Studies show that apologizing to your partner for hurting their feelings and granting forgiveness are crucial to the success of a second marriage. It’s essential that remarried couples learn the value of sincere apologies and forgiveness. Drawing on the experiences of dozens of couples and remarriage scenarios, Terry Gaspard shows you how to bring each key home and set up your relationship for lasting success. Whether you are thinking of remarrying and concerned about going the distance or are already remarried and struggling, The Remarriage Manual provides the expert advice, practical tools, hope, and inspiration you need to prevent challenges from becoming deal breakers. The 10 keys provided here will help put you and your spouse on solid footing; keep the flame between you burning bright; and build a deeply trusting, loving, and sustainable connection for the long haul. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Preventive Approaches in Couples Therapy Rony Berger, Mo Therese Hannah, 2013-06-17 Preventive Approaches in Couples Therapy is the first thorough overview of the leading approaches to preventing marital distress and dissolution. Written for professionals, paraprofessionals, and lay people involved in the development and implementation of preventive programs, the editors have created a resource accessible to all those in the field of couples therapy. The volume serves as an important resource for programs that the therapist may already use and as an insightful introduction into new programs that can strengthen and invigorate these existing therapeutic approaches. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Marital Therapy Neil S. Jacobson, Gayla Margolin, 1979 First Published in 1986. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Dynamics of Marriage Leticia S. Isidro-Clancy, 2018-09-28 Dynamics of Marriage: The Family of Origin Approach promotes a unique way of advancing couple-therapy: exploring in unison with participating couples the how and when of their having been shaped by their Families of Origin. More significantly, this book examined in detail the Family of Origin impact on all couples relationships: spouse to spouse, spouse to child, and spouse to other members of the family. This workbook will allow couples to retrace their paths of familial growth and identify the signpost that work to undermine this growth. As often discovered, these detrimental markers originate from Families of Origin. Within this critical exploration, the couple shall discover the core aspects of their relationship that maintain an equilibrium and status quo of their marriage and family. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Doing Couple Therapy, First Edition Robert Taibbi, 2010-12-08 Wise, compassionate, and highly practical, this engaging text covers the entire process of therapeutic work with couples, from opening sessions and assessment through skills building, core issues, and termination. Students and novice couple therapists learn effective strategies for intervening with couples of any age who are struggling with acute crises or longstanding conflicts and power struggles. Rich with sensitive, detailed case material, the book features numerous exercises that help readers identify and develop their own strengths as practitioners. Self-care strategies and tips for getting the most out of supervision are provided. Special topics include how to address couple issues with only one partner and couple therapy applications for chronic mental health problems. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Dating Radar Bill Eddy, Megan Hunter, 2017-08-22 Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person? Most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success when, in reality, these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and shortsighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar, it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing: 1. Warning signs of certain personalities that can spell love relationship danger 2. Ways that they can jam your radar (deceive you) 3. Where your own blind spots might be Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter use their expertise in high-conflict personalities, complicated relationships and divorce to equip readers to see through the blinding spark of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it is too late! If hindsight is 20/20, dating radar is x-ray vision. Bill Eddy is an award-winning author and president of High Conflict Institute.Megan Hunter is a publisher, author, speaker and the founder of Unhooked Media. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Marriage Fitness Mort Fertel, 2004 Revolutionary step by step system marriage success. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: From Conflict To Resolution Susan Heitler, 1993 In a dramatic theoretical breakthrough, psychologist Susan M. Heitler unties various schools of therapy with a powerful insight. Emotional healing depends on movement from conflict to resolution, as the title suggests. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: The Relationship Protocol Debra M Roberts, 2015-06-22 Are you having trouble communicating with an important person in your life? Are you looking for tools and techniques you can use today? The Relationship Protocol is the easy to use, step-by-step guide on how to communicate effectively in all of your important relationships - romantic, family, business and friendships. Learn how to deal with and resolve real-life conflicts. Navigate tough situations. Take control and defuse heated arguments. Bring up sensitive topics and recover from setbacks. Instill hope when lost, and rebuild trust. Read The Relationship Protocol today to make your relationships more enjoyable and less complicated. www.TheRelationshipProtocol.com |
| ground rules for couples therapy: If Only I Had Known...: Avoiding Common Mistakes in Couples Therapy Susanne Methven, Mark Odell, Gerald R. Weeks, 2013-01-28 Creating tactics for getting it right the first time. The co-authors draw on over thirty years of experience to show young therapists how and how not to conduct psychotherapy. Each chapter begins with a vignette illustrating a common mistake, then describes the error in detail, explains why therapists make the mistake and offers tactics for avoiding it. |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy Jay L. Lebow, Douglas K. Snyder, 2022-11-14 Regarded as the authoritative reference and text, this handbook presents the most effective, widely studied approaches to couple therapy. The distinguished coeditors bring together other leading experts, most of whom developed the approaches they describe. Adhering closely to a uniform structure to facilitate study and comparison, chapters cover the history, theoretical and empirical underpinnings, and techniques of each model. The volume also describes cutting-edge applications for particular relationship contexts (such as blended families, LGBT couples, and separated couples) and clinical problems (such as partner aggression, psychological disorders, and medical issues)-- |
| ground rules for couples therapy: Social Movements and Violence Joseph Thomas, 2001 |
Couples Therapy Ground Rules - Thought Field Therapy Center …
Ground Rules for Couples Therapy 1. Start with being centered and grounded (use TFT karate point, collarbone breathing if needed) 2. Hold in your heart the attitude of gratitude 3. Use “I” language • Avoid blaming • Avoid fault-finding or excuses or justifying your own contributing …
Basic couple therapy competences - UCL
setting clear ground rules for the assessment and any offer of couple therapy An ability to assess the nature and severity of affective disorders, including the ability to identify the history and …
Using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy for Common
Valuing Engaging Basic Steps For Therapy. Initial Session(s) 1. Informed Consent (all in one go, or dispersed through the session) 2. Emphasize workability as the guiding principle & get …
couples-therapy - Pathways of Ohio Counseling Services, LLC
“GROUND RULES” FOR COUPLES THERAPY. The function of couples counseling is to create a safe environment in which the couple can communicate differences to and with each other …
Treatment Plans and Interventions in Couple Therapy: A …
Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy (CBCT) includes interventions that focus on partners’ behavior toward each other, their ways of thinking about their relationship (cognitions), and …
The Couples Communica0on Workbook - Between Sessions
• couples counseling is most effec=ve when communica=on is open and honest, and when partners take responsibility for their own feelings and behaviors; • sessions are kept …
Ability to use techniques that engage the couple - UCL
Ability to use techniques that engage the couple. An ability to form and develop a collaborative alliance with each partner and to enlist their support for relationship-focused therapy, for …
How To Structure A Couples Therapy Session (Download Only)
2. Establishing Ground Rules and Expectations Developing clear ground rules and expectations is vital for a productive therapy session. These rules should focus on respectful communication, …
for EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED COUPLES THERAPY
how couples interact and how change occurs within the couple. We can reflect upon the differences among these models by exploring how each one approaches the main objectives …
Communication Skills for Twenty Five Ways To building Strong …
In your first weekly couples meeting, it’s a good suggestion to set some communication "ground rules" for handling issues within your relationship. These can act as a set of guiding principles …
Couples Guidelines for Mature Arguing and Effective …
Here are some concise tools or rules to remember when communicating and entering into conflicts, arguments or uncomfortable conversations with your partner. When practiced, these …
Fair Fighting Rules - Maysie Tift, M.A., MFT
Fair Fighting Rules. Conflict is inevitable, but ineffective and destructive fighting can destroy relationships. Exercise: Review these guidelines with your partner and identify each person’s …
Guide to Individual Sessions in EFT Couple …
Individual Sessions. Usually done after first 1 or 2 couple sessions, for the following purposes: 1. To foster alliance. 2. To observe and interact with each partner in context without other …
DBT Skills for Couples referenced to The High Conflict Couple: A …
DISTRACT: ACCEPTS: Exercise focusing your attention on something other than the emotion. Distract with Activities, Contributing, Comparison, Emotions (different), Pushing away, …
23 Couples Therapy Techniques & Exercises - Coaching Online
If it’s time for you to enhance your relationship, rest assured, there are a multitude of couples therapy techniques and exercises at your fingertips. In this article, everything you need to …
The Gottman Method for Couples Counseling - Psychology Group
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in …
Ground Rules for Support Groups - FreeHostia
The following ground rules facilitate the development of trust in the group and enable us to share our thoughts and feelings with each other. Because confidentiality is essential, we expect that …
Core Skills Training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
CORE SKILLS SESSION 1: STEPS 1 AND 2 OF EFT. Step 1: Alliance and Assessment: Create an alliance and delineate the core attachment struggle. Assess partners’ goals and feasibility …
NICE Clinical Guidelines recommending Family and Couple Therapy
This document is an up to date summary of the recommendations made by NICE (the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) in clinical guidelines and updated clinical guidelines, …
Fair Fighting Rules - Therapist Aid
Even if yelling intimidates your partner into giving up, the underlying problem only grows worse. Take a time-out if things get too heated. In a perfect world, we would all follow these rules …
Couples Therapy Ground Rules - Thought Field Therapy Center …
Ground Rules for Couples Therapy 1. Start with being centered and grounded (use TFT karate point, collarbone breathing if needed) 2. Hold in your heart the attitude of gratitude 3. Use “I” language • Avoid blaming • Avoid fault-finding or excuses or justifying your own contributing actions 4. Keep to facts–avoid assuming 5. Use ...
Basic couple therapy competences - UCL
setting clear ground rules for the assessment and any offer of couple therapy An ability to assess the nature and severity of affective disorders, including the ability to identify the history and current presence of psychotic symptoms, severe depression,
Using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy for Common
Valuing Engaging Basic Steps For Therapy. Initial Session(s) 1. Informed Consent (all in one go, or dispersed through the session) 2. Emphasize workability as the guiding principle & get permission to interrupt and point out unworkable behavior BEFORE you start taking a history. 3. Assess commitment & willingness to work. 4.
couples-therapy - Pathways of Ohio Counseling Services, LLC
“GROUND RULES” FOR COUPLES THERAPY. The function of couples counseling is to create a safe environment in which the couple can communicate differences to and with each other safely and without hostility.
Treatment Plans and Interventions in Couple Therapy: A Cognitive ...
Cognitive-behavioral couple therapy (CBCT) includes interventions that focus on partners’ behavior toward each other, their ways of thinking about their relationship (cognitions), and their emotional responses to each other. The following are brief descriptions of these types of interventions that your therapist may be using in working with you.
The Couples Communica0on Workbook - Between Sessions
• couples counseling is most effec=ve when communica=on is open and honest, and when partners take responsibility for their own feelings and behaviors; • sessions are kept completely confiden=al by the counselor, and it is recommended that issues
Ability to use techniques that engage the couple - UCL
Ability to use techniques that engage the couple. An ability to form and develop a collaborative alliance with each partner and to enlist their support for relationship-focused therapy, for example by: responding empathically in order to validate the experience of each partner, especially their emotional experience accepting and exploring each ...
How To Structure A Couples Therapy Session (Download Only)
2. Establishing Ground Rules and Expectations Developing clear ground rules and expectations is vital for a productive therapy session. These rules should focus on respectful communication, active listening, and mutual understanding. Setting boundaries for communication, ensuring both partners feel safe and respected, is a critical first step
for EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED COUPLES THERAPY
how couples interact and how change occurs within the couple. We can reflect upon the differences among these models by exploring how each one approaches the main objectives of couples therapy: • removing, decreasing or modifying symptoms or problems in the relationship • mediating negative patterns of behavior
Communication Skills for Twenty Five Ways To building Strong …
In your first weekly couples meeting, it’s a good suggestion to set some communication "ground rules" for handling issues within your relationship. These can act as a set of guiding principles that you both agree to and are there to serve to protect your relationship – very important!
Couples Guidelines for Mature Arguing and Effective …
Here are some concise tools or rules to remember when communicating and entering into conflicts, arguments or uncomfortable conversations with your partner. When practiced, these principles will help to improve and eventually revitalize your relationship. They will serve to
Fair Fighting Rules - Maysie Tift, M.A., MFT
Fair Fighting Rules. Conflict is inevitable, but ineffective and destructive fighting can destroy relationships. Exercise: Review these guidelines with your partner and identify each person’s greatest strengths and weaknesses in the realm of managing conflict.
Guide to Individual Sessions in EFT Couple Therapy…
Individual Sessions. Usually done after first 1 or 2 couple sessions, for the following purposes: 1. To foster alliance. 2. To observe and interact with each partner in context without other partner. 3. To hear how each partner sees and feels about their partner and the relationship. 4.
DBT Skills for Couples referenced to The High Conflict Couple: A …
DISTRACT: ACCEPTS: Exercise focusing your attention on something other than the emotion. Distract with Activities, Contributing, Comparison, Emotions (different), Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations. SELF SOOTHE: Soothe any or all of your five senses. Sight: look at something pleasing to the eye.
23 Couples Therapy Techniques & Exercises - Coaching Online
If it’s time for you to enhance your relationship, rest assured, there are a multitude of couples therapy techniques and exercises at your fingertips. In this article, everything you need to know about couples therapy and couples’ activities is here. You can download the pdf to use and keep with you. Soul Gazing.
The Gottman Method for Couples Counseling - Psychology Group
The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding.
Ground Rules for Support Groups - FreeHostia
The following ground rules facilitate the development of trust in the group and enable us to share our thoughts and feelings with each other. Because confidentiality is essential, we expect that each person will respect and maintain the confidentiality of the group.
Core Skills Training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
CORE SKILLS SESSION 1: STEPS 1 AND 2 OF EFT. Step 1: Alliance and Assessment: Create an alliance and delineate the core attachment struggle. Assess partners’ goals and feasibility for EFT. Step 2: Identify the negative interactional cycle that …
NICE Clinical Guidelines recommending Family and Couple Therapy
This document is an up to date summary of the recommendations made by NICE (the National Institute for Health and Care Excellence) in clinical guidelines and updated clinical guidelines, between March 2012 and July 2016, about using family, couple and systemic therapies, and / or the involvement of families and carers when working with people wi...
Fair Fighting Rules - Therapist Aid
Even if yelling intimidates your partner into giving up, the underlying problem only grows worse. Take a time-out if things get too heated. In a perfect world, we would all follow these rules 100% of the time... but it just doesn’t work like that. If an argument starts to become personal or heated, take a time-out.
