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| how to be a slut: The Ethical Slut Dossie Easton, Janet W. Hardy, 2009 A practical guide to practicing polyamory and open relationships in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable--Provided by publisher. |
| how to be a slut: How To Be A Confident Hoe... Because slut shaming Is Over Destiny Love, 2017-06-22 All women are hoes, whether you agree with this fact or not. Technically if you are a woman who is a free spirit, you are automatically labeled as a hoe or a slut. It's okay though, because you can now learn how to be a CONFIDENT hoe. Learn the art of loving all of yourself shamelessly and boldly. Take back your right to being sexually free and release the slut that's been hiding within you ! |
| how to be a slut: I Am Not a Slut Leora Tanenbaum, 2015-02-03 The author of the groundbreaking work Slut! explores the phenomenon of slut-shaming in the age of sexting, tweeting, and “liking.” She shows that the sexual double standard is more dangerous than ever before and offers wisdom and strategies for alleviating its destructive effects on young women’s lives. Young women are encouraged to express themselves sexually. Yet when they do, they are derided as “sluts.” Caught in a double bind of mixed sexual messages, young women are confused. To fulfill the contradictory roles of being sexy but not slutty, they create an “experienced” identity on social media-even if they are not sexually active—while ironically referring to themselves and their friends as “sluts.” But this strategy can become a weapon used against young women in the hands of peers who circulate rumors and innuendo—elevating age-old slut-shaming to deadly levels, with suicide among bullied teenage girls becoming increasingly common. Now, Leora Tanenbaum revisits her influential work on sexual stereotyping to offer fresh insight into the digital and face-to-face worlds contemporary young women inhabit. She shares her new research, involving interviews with a wide range of teenage girls and young women from a variety of backgrounds as well as parents, educators, and academics. Tanenbaum analyzes the coping mechanisms young women currently use and points them in a new direction to eradicate slut-shaming for good. |
| how to be a slut: Slut! Leora Tanenbaum, 2000-08-22 Girls may be called sluts for any number of reasons, including being outsiders, early developers, victims of rape, targets of others' revenge. Often the labels has nothing to do with sex -- the girls simply do not fit in. An important account of the lives of these young women, Slut! weaves together powerful oral histories of girls and women who finally overcame their sexual labels with a cogent analysis of the underlying problem of sexual stereotyping. Author Leora Tanenbaum herself was labeled a slut in high school. The confessional article she wrote for Seventeen about the experience caused a sensation and led her to write this book. |
| how to be a slut: SLUT: the Play Katie Cappiello, 2015-02-10 A riveting, true-to-life play that examines rape and bullying culture, offering critical insight for survivors and bystanders. |
| how to be a slut: He's a Stud, She's a Slut, and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know Jessica Valenti, 2009-07-31 Double standards are nothing new. Women deal with them every day. Take the common truism that women who sleep around are sluts while men are studs. Why is it that men grow distinguished and sexily gray as they age while women just get saggy and haggard? Have you ever wondered how a young woman is supposed to both virginal and provocatively enticing at the same time? Isn't it unfair that working moms are labeled bad for focusing on their careers while we shake our heads in disbelief when we hear about the occasional stay-at-home dad? In 50 Double Standards Every Woman Should Know, Jessica Valenti, author of Full Frontal Feminism, calls out the double standards that affect every woman. Whether Jessica is pointing out the wage earning discrepancies between men and women or revealing all of the places that women still aren't equal to their male counterparts-be it in the workplace, courtroom, bedroom, or home-she maintains her signature wittily sarcastic tone. With sass, humor, and in-your-face facts, this book informs and equips women with the tools they need to combat sexist comments, topple ridiculous stereotypes (girls aren't good at math?), and end the promotion of lame double standards. |
| how to be a slut: The Jealousy Workbook Kathy Labriola, 2013-09-13 From the initial stages of trying to agree who can do what with whom, through advanced issues such as coping with logistics and seeking compersion, every relationship sooner or later confronts jealousy – and some relationships do not survive the confrontation. Between these covers you will find forty-two exercises with supporting text, developed by a professional relationship counselor and refined by hundreds of clients trying to find their own paths through jealousy. They range from basic (Exercise Two, Clarify Your Relationship Orientation) through challenging (Exercise Thirty-Four, Imagine Looking Through Their Eyes and Being In Their Shoes). All can be done solo, with a partner, or under the supervision of a helping professional, and all can be done before a problem emerges or in the throes of a jealousy crisis. Along the way, you will find solutions to the issues that bedevil even the most happily open relationships. |
| how to be a slut: SLUT Katie Cappiello, Meg McInerney, 2015-03-15 The basis of the forthcoming NETFLIX series Grand Army. Hailed by Gloria Steinem as “truthful, raw, and immediate,” SLUT examines sexual violence and rape culture through the eyes of high school students at a New York City high school. She's such a slut. Sound familiar? When a sixteen-year-old Joey is sexually assaulted by three friends, her life is thrown into upheaval after she comes forward and realizes the extent of society’s deeply-rooted sexual double standards and rape culture. By turns heartbreaking and hilarious, the play SLUT captures the real lives of teens and young adults as they negotiate sex and the cruel scapegoating that still hobbles female sexuality and power. This groundbreaking play and guidebook, written in collaboration with New York City high school students, offers communities and individuals concrete tools to inspire change and disrupt rape culture. SLUT includes production notes, a guide for talk-backs, and provocative essays by Leora Tanenbaum, Jennifer Baumgardner, Farah Tanis, Jamia Wilson, among others, providing the resources to inspire change within our communities and ourselves. |
| how to be a slut: A Woman Is No Man Etaf Rum, 2019-03-05 A Goodreads Choice Awards Finalist for Best Fiction and Best Debut • BookBrowse's Best Book of the Year • A Marie Claire Best Women's Fiction of the Year • A Real Simple Best Book of the Year • A PopSugar Best Book of the Year • A New York Times Book Review Editors’ Choice • A Washington Post 10 Books to Read in March • A Newsweek Best Book of the Summer • A USA Today Best Book of the Week • A Washington Book Review Difficult-To-Put-Down Novel • A Refinery 29 Best Books of the Month • A Buzzfeed News 4 Books We Couldn't Put Down Last Month • A New Arab Best Books by Arab Authors • An Electric Lit 20 Best Debuts of the First Half of 2019 • A The Millions Most Anticipated Books of the Year “Garnering justified comparisons to Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns... Etaf Rum’s debut novel is a must-read about women mustering up the bravery to follow their inner voice.” —Refinery 29 The New York Times bestseller and Read with Jenna TODAY SHOW Book Club pick telling the story of three generations of Palestinian-American women struggling to express their individual desires within the confines of their Arab culture in the wake of shocking intimate violence in their community. Where I come from, we’ve learned to silence ourselves. We’ve been taught that silence will save us. Where I come from, we keep these stories to ourselves. To tell them to the outside world is unheard of—dangerous, the ultimate shame.” Palestine, 1990. Seventeen-year-old Isra prefers reading books to entertaining the suitors her father has chosen for her. Over the course of a week, the naïve and dreamy girl finds herself quickly betrothed and married, and is soon living in Brooklyn. There Isra struggles to adapt to the expectations of her oppressive mother-in-law Fareeda and strange new husband Adam, a pressure that intensifies as she begins to have children—four daughters instead of the sons Fareeda tells Isra she must bear. Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, Isra’s oldest daughter, must meet with potential husbands at her grandmother Fareeda’s insistence, though her only desire is to go to college. Deya can’t help but wonder if her options would have been different had her parents survived the car crash that killed them when Deya was only eight. But her grandmother is firm on the matter: the only way to secure a worthy future for Deya is through marriage to the right man. But fate has a will of its own, and soon Deya will find herself on an unexpected path that leads her to shocking truths about her family—knowledge that will force her to question everything she thought she knew about her parents, the past, and her own future. |
| how to be a slut: They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us Hanif Abdurraqib, 2017-11-14 * 2018 12 best books to give this holiday season —TODAY (Elizabeth Acevedo) * A Best Book of 2017 —Rolling Stone (2018), NPR, Buzzfeed, Paste Magazine, Esquire, Chicago Tribune, Vol. 1 Brooklyn, CBC, Stereogum, National Post, Entropy, Heavy, Book Riot, Chicago Review of Books, The Los Angeles Review, Michigan Daily * American Booksellers Association (ABA) 'December 2017 Indie Next List Great Reads' * Midwest Indie Bestseller In an age of confusion, fear, and loss, Hanif Abdurraqib's is a voice that matters. Whether he's attending a Bruce Springsteen concert the day after visiting Michael Brown's grave, or discussing public displays of affection at a Carly Rae Jepsen show, he writes with a poignancy and magnetism that resonates profoundly. In the wake of the nightclub attacks in Paris, he recalls how he sought refuge as a teenager in music, at shows, and wonders whether the next generation of young Muslims will not be afforded that opportunity now. While discussing the everyday threat to the lives of Black Americans, Abdurraqib recounts the first time he was ordered to the ground by police officers: for attempting to enter his own car. In essays that have been published by the New York Times, MTV, and Pitchfork, among others—along with original, previously unreleased essays—Abdurraqib uses music and culture as a lens through which to view our world, so that we might better understand ourselves, and in so doing proves himself a bellwether for our times. |
| how to be a slut: Don't Hold My Head Down Lucy-Anne Holmes, 2019-02 Don't Hold My Head Down is a memoir about sex. It starts with the author having a disappointing, drunken wank to internet porn, and ends with her having day-long orgasms and taking on the most powerful newspaper in the country. In her mid-thirties, Lucy-Anne Holmes realised that something was missing. When it came to sex she still felt like a novice: she lacked confidence and felt incapable of asking for what she wanted. But when she looked for a how-to guide or a workshop, she found that everything she googled was geared towards the male gaze rather than women's pleasure. So, she made a 'fuckit list' of the things she'd like to try - among them slow sex, ejaculation, different types of orgasm, being sexual with other women, BDSM, sex parties and making porn - and set out on a journey of discovery. This is the book that Lucy wanted to read in the first place; a frank, eye-opening and inspiring account of the search for better sex that shares her tips, revelations, failures and triumphs. |
| how to be a slut: Loose Girl Kerry Cohen, 2008-06-03 This captivating and deeply emotional memoir pulls back the curtain on the complex relationship women have between their bodies, love, and the way the two work together. Kerry Cohen is eleven years old when she recognizes the power of her body in the leer of a grown man. Her parents are recently divorced and it doesn't take long before their lassitude and Kerry's desire to stand out—to be memorable in some way—combine to lead her down a path she knows she shouldn't take. Kerry wanted attention. She wanted love. But not really understanding what love was, not really knowing how to get it, she reached for sex instead. Loose Girl is Kerry Cohen's captivating memoir about her descent into promiscuity and how she gradually found her way toward real intimacy. The story of addiction—not just to sex, but to male attention—Loose Girl is also the story of a young girl who came to believe that boys and men could give her life meaning. It didn't matter who he was. It was their movement that mattered, their being together. And for a while, that was enough. From the early rush of exploration to the day she learned to quiet the desperation and allow herself to love and be loved, Kerry's story is never less than riveting. In rich and immediate detail, Loose Girl re-creates what it feels like to be in that desperate moment, when a girl tries to control a boy by handing over her body, when the touch of that boy seems to offer proof of something, but ultimately delivers little more than emptiness. Kerry Cohen's journey from that hopeless place to her current confident and fulfilled existence is a cautionary tale and a revelation for girls young and old. The unforgettable memoir of one young woman who desperately wanted to matter, Loose Girl will speak to countless others with its compassion, understanding, and love. |
| how to be a slut: Opening Up Tristan Taormino, 2008-05-01 A practical guide to making sexually open arrangements work outlines options for transforming monogamous relationships into effective polyamorous ones, in a reference that addresses such topics as boundary setting, child-raising, and conflict resolution. Original. |
| how to be a slut: Fast Girls Emily White, 2002 Has she done the things of which she is accused? How is her reputation created in the first place? She is the high school slut, and Fast Girls explores her experience and her legacy. In this fusion of reportage, criticism, and memoir, Emily White provides an in-depth look at the girls who were labeled high school sluts and the culture that perpetuates the myth.--BOOK JACKET. |
| how to be a slut: Abandon Me Melissa Febos, 2017-02-28 Named One of the Best Books of the year by: Esquire, Refinery29, BookRiot, Medium, Electric Literature, The Brooklyn Rail, Largehearted Boy, The Coil and The Cut. Winner of the Lambda Literary Jeanne Cordova Prize for Lesbian/Queer Nonfiction Finalist, Lambda Literary Award for Lesbian Memoir/Biography Finalist, Publishing Triangle's Judy Grahn Award for Lesbian Nonfiction An Indie Next Pick A fierce and dazzling personal narrative that explores the many ways identity and art are shaped by love and loss. In her critically acclaimed memoir, Whip Smart, Melissa Febos laid bare the intimate world of the professional dominatrix, turning an honest examination of her life into a lyrical study of power, desire, and fulfillment. In her dazzling Abandon Me, Febos captures the intense bonds of love and the need for connection -- with family, lovers, and oneself. First, her birth father, who left her with only an inheritance of addiction and Native American blood, its meaning a mystery. As Febos tentatively reconnects, she sees how both these lineages manifest in her own life, marked by compulsion and an instinct for self-erasure. Meanwhile, she remains closely tied to the sea captain who raised her, his parenting ardent but intermittent as his work took him away for months at a time. Woven throughout is the hypnotic story of an all-consuming, long-distance love affair with a woman, marked equally by worship and withdrawal. In visceral, erotic prose, Febos captures their mutual abandonment to passion and obsession -- and the terror and exhilaration of losing herself in another. At once a fearlessly vulnerable memoir and an incisive investigation of art, love, and identity, Abandon Me draws on childhood stories, religion, psychology, mythology, popular culture, and the intimacies of one writer's life to reveal intellectual and emotional truths that feel startlingly universal. |
| how to be a slut: The Ethical Slut Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt, 1997 A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities Beyond the often unrealistic ideal of lifetime monogamy lies an uncharted jungle of delightful options - everything from committed multi-partner relationships to friendly sex, casual sex, group sex, and more. In this groundbreaking volume, Bottoming Book' and 'Topping Book' authors provide a road map for exploring this sometimes difficult, often rewarding territory. Warm, informative detials about how to get your needs met, manage your jealousy, make agreements that...' |
| how to be a slut: Barbara the Slut and Other People Lauren Holmes, 2015-08-04 ‘Astonishing – one of those rare books that manages to be both poignant and hilarious. The last time we had a debut this big was Junot Díaz with ‘Drown’. Holmes is a major talent.’ Philipp Meyer A fresh, honest, and darkly funny debut collection about family, friends, and lovers, and the flaws that make us most human. |
| how to be a slut: Generation S.L.U.T. Marty Beckerman, 2004-02-24 The first exploration of the sex lives of modern teens, as reported from the frontlines by twenty-year-old Marty Beckerman. Innovatively combining fact and fiction, the book is filled with mind-shattering stats, news reports, and confessions from adolescents nationwide about the new American Hook-Up Culture, in which 7,700 kids lose their virginity every day. Far from religious proselytizing, Generation S.L.U.T. seeks to find the balance between sexual freedom and sexual responsibility, and even the most cynical readers (not to mention parents) will find themselves speechless and heartbroken. Blunt and brutal, tackling everything from preteen oral sex to gun violence, sexual assault, and suicide, Beckerman's tour de force through contemporary adolescence will leave you stunned, breathless, and ultimately horrified. |
| how to be a slut: The Making of a Slut Phebe Bodelle, 2015-08-08 Maddie, when asked by her husband to remove her bikini top on a British beach is at first shocked. Baring her breasts in public was not on her life to do list but wanting to please her husband she dared to bare. Little did Nate realise he was unleashing a side of his wife he never imagined she had. Having enjoyed the experience she drags her husband sometimes reluctantly into the world of exhibitionism and beyond. |
| how to be a slut: Hard to Get Leslie Bell, 2013-03-08 Hard to Get is a powerful and intimate examination of the sex and love lives of the most liberated women in history—twenty-something American women who have had more opportunities, more positive role models, and more information than any previous generation. Drawing from her years of experience as a researcher and a psychotherapist, Leslie C. Bell takes us directly into the lives of young women who struggle to negotiate the complexities of sexual desire and pleasure, and to make sense of their historically unique but contradictory constellation of opportunities and challenges. In candid interviews, Bell’s subjects reveal that, despite having more choices than ever, they face great uncertainty about desire, sexuality, and relationships. Ground-breaking and highly readable, Hard to Get offers fascinating insights into the many ways that sex, love, and satisfying relationships prove surprisingly elusive to these young women as they navigate the new emotional landscape of the 21st century. |
| how to be a slut: How to Be a Bad Bitch Amber Rose, 2015-10-27 An edgy yet accessible “bad bitch” guide to life, love, and success from Amber Rose, renowned model, entrepreneur, and pop culture personality. Bad Bitch (n.): A self-respecting, strong female who has everything together. This consists of body, mind, finances, and attitude; a woman who gets her way by any means necessary. Amber Rose didn’t let her early years in the tough neighborhood of South Philly keep her from achieving her star-studded goals. From the sets of music videos, to high fashion runways and magazines, to life at home with her beautiful son, Amber doesn’t hesitate to command her personal stage with confidence, edge, attitude, and her own form of grace. For the first time, this renowned model, actress, socialite, pop culture maven, and self-proclaimed “bad bitch” is sharing her secrets on how to lead a powerful life in this edgy yet accessible guide to life, love, and success. With unparalleled candor, “Muva” pulls back the curtain on her rollercoaster of a journey from a young trailblazer to a worldwide phenomenon—and it’s this evolution that has influenced her intoxicating, authoritative outlook on life and love. Filled with expert advice and personal anecdotes, How to Be a Bad Bitch covers finances, career, love, beauty, and fashion while emphasizing confidence, positive self-acceptance, and authenticity. Above all, Amber delivers a message to all women in this fiercely fearless guide: work hard, love yourself, embrace your femininity and sexuality, and most importantly, chase the best vision of you possible. |
| how to be a slut: Confessions of a Corporate Slut Jacqueline Gum, 2008-01-02 In CONFESSIONS OF A CORPORATE SLUT, Roberta conquers a bare-knuckle, male-dominated industry and achieves unparalleled success as an overachieving sales pro, entrepreneur, and corporate manager. But something is missing in her life. Marriage. Family. Purpose. When Roberta finds love, she is oblivious to the astronomical losses she will sustainincluding pride, self-esteem and moneythe tradeoff she makes to help her CEO husband push his manufacturing company to the pinnacle of its industry. When Roberta moves out of the family home at seventeen, her only working experience is a $1.35 gig at Dairy Queen. Unqualified and underage, she cajoles her way into managing a new restaurant and bar. Eventually she realizes the sales profession offers the best way to maximize her income, so she hits the road in hose and heels and a fifty-pound sample case of glassware, stir sticks, and beverage napkins. Little did she know her success would someday propel her into the unfamiliar role of the ideal corporate wife. Roberta is the polar opposite of a victim as she faces each challenge with her trademark mixture of spunk and grace. Her wry sense of humor intertwines with conflict, weaving a tapestry rich in humor and irony. Inspired by a true story CONFESSIONS OF A CORPORATE SLUT, is a tale of ambition and failurea tale of emotional connection and disconnection of support and about-faces of fear and loathingof love and hate. And a story that is all too often being played out in todays corporate culture. |
| how to be a slut: How to Be Good with Words Don LePan, Laura Buzzard, Maureen Okun, 2017-02-25 In recent decades, the contested areas of English usage have grown both larger and more numerous. English speakers argue about whether we should say man or humanity, fisher or fisherman; whether we ought to speak of people as being disabled, or challenged, or differently abled; whether it is acceptable to say that’s so gay. More generally, we ask, can we use language in ways that avoid giving expression to prejudices embedded within it? Can the words we use help us point a way towards a better world? Can we ask such questions with appropriate seriousness while remaining open-minded—and while retaining our sense of humor? To all these questions this concise and user-friendly guide answers yes, while offering clear-headed discussions of many of the key issues. |
| how to be a slut: The Ethical Slut, Third Edition Janet W. Hardy, Dossie Easton, 2017-08-15 The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships. “One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read, no matter what your lifestyle choices. It’s chock-full of great information about communication, jealousy, asking for what you want, and maintaining a relationship with integrity.”—Annie Sprinkle, PhD, sexologist and author of Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex has been revised to include: • Interviews with poly millennials (young people who have grown up without the prejudices their elders encountered regarding gender, orientation, sexuality, and relationships) • Tributes to polyamory pioneers • Tools for conflict resolution and instructions on how to improve interpersonal dynamics • New sidebars on topics such as asexuality, sex workers, LGBTQ terminology, and ways polys can connect and thrive The authors also include new content addressing nontraditional relationships beyond the polyamorous paradigm of “more than two”: couples who don't live together, couples who don't have sex with each other, nonparallel arrangements, couples with widely divergent sex styles, power disparities, and cross-orientation relationships, while utilizing nonbinary gender language and new terms that have come into common usage since the last edition. |
| how to be a slut: Sex Up Your Life Richard Master, 2013-10 If you're not getting laid, it's your own damn fault. There is no candy coating for your male ego, or allowing for excuses in order to soften the message in this book. This book contains facts about what it takes to succeed with women. If you're looking for a kind and gentle nudge in the right direction, this may not be the book for you. If you want hard hitting, guaranteed methods to improve your prowess with the ladies, you really can't afford not to read this book. Richard Master pulls no punches as he explains why simply wanting to have sex with a woman is not enough. You've got to work at evaluating yourself, and correcting your weaknesses. His advice is right on with tips about hygiene, clothes, conversation and even how to correctly touch a woman when it's time to turn up the heat. If you've always wondered what makes women like me go from, absolutely not to oh my god, you'll want to be sure to pay close attention. |
| how to be a slut: Confessions of a Golf Slut Susan Fornoff, 2013-12 A 35-year-old career bachelorette decided her dating style needed an overhaul, so she took up golf to meet men on manicured greens instead of in smoky bars. Of course she met men. But she also made friends. And found a new vocation that took her to the most beautiful resorts and most famous courses in the world. None of it had anything to do with being good at the game. Golf slut, was what she called herself -- based on the description comedian Tommy Smothers used lovingly in describing his wife: will play anywhere, anytime, with anyone. But as moment after moment unfolded with gifts, lessons and surprises, she came to realize her relationship with the game transcended labels. In her memoir Confessions of a Golf Slut: A memoir of life, love, and The Game, trailblazing sports journalist Susan Fornoff tells the story of how golf became her warm blanket through the heartbreaking loss of divorce and death, her compass for a hilarious journey through online dating, her guiding light in the murky tunnel of midlife career change. Confessions of a Golf Slut is you'll-laugh-you'll-cry chick lit -- spun with driver, hybrid, wedge and putter. A poignant and often funny golf sister to the likes of Julie and Julia and Eat, Pray, Love, Confessions of a Golf Slut relates the metaphors of the beloved, centuries-old game in context with human foibles and frailties. Within the narrative framework of the search for love, it addresses universal themes such as self-examination, perseverance, friendship and, ultimately, forgiveness. Chick lit, yes - and, for men, a peek into the other team's playbook. It's not a spoiler to reveal that the author never masters the game of golf. But her passion for the game will no doubt resonate among the women who already play -- an estimated 5 million in the United States alone, with another 38 million women reported to have interest -- and inspire those who don't yet play to pick up a 7-iron and give it a big kiss. |
| how to be a slut: UnSlut Emily Lindin, 2019-08-01 When Emily Lindin was eleven years old, she was branded a “slut” by the rest of her classmates. For the next few years of her life, she was bullied incessantly at school, after school, and online. At the time, Emily didn't feel comfortable confiding in her parents or in the other adults in her life. But she did keep a diary... UnSlut presents that diary, word for word, with split-page commentary to provide context and perspective. This unique diary and memoir sheds light on the important issues of sexual bullying, slut shaming, and the murky mores of adolescent sexual development. Readers will see themselves in Emily’s story—whether as the bully, the shamed, or the passive bystander. This book also includes advice and commentary from a variety of distinguished experts. |
| how to be a slut: The Manipulated Mind Denise Winn, 2000 This book shows how such factors as social conditioning, need for approval and emotional dependency prevent us from being as self-directed as we think - and which human traits make us the least susceptible to subtle influence. |
| how to be a slut: The Last Living Slut Roxana Shirazi, 2010-06-01 The Last Living Slut is the salaciously literary and sexually liberated account of one young woman’s transition from traditionally-raised Iranian to rock and roll groupie for Guns N Roses, Motley Crew, and many others. Paired with a powerful introduction by New York Times bestselling authors Neil Strauss and Anthony Bozza, Roxana Shirazi’s The Last Living Slut is a passionate tale of jilted love, brutal revenge, and backstage encounters that make Pamela Des Barres’s I’m With The Band read like the diary of a nun. |
| how to be a slut: The Slut's Cook Book Erin Pizzey, 1981 |
| how to be a slut: Mass Control Jim Keith, 2003 Here stands the New Man. His conception of reality is a dance of electronic images fired into his forebrain, a gossamer construction of his masters, designed so that he will not-under any circumstances-perceive the actual. His happiness is delivered to him through a tube or an electronic connection. His God lurks behind an electronic curtain; when the curtain is pulled away we find the CIA sorcerer, the media manipulator. There has never been a book which so carefully and thoroughly exposes the secret plans to dominate world consciousness. Book jacket. |
| how to be a slut: Whores and Other Feminists Jill Nagle, 1997 First Published in 1997. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company. |
| how to be a slut: Summertime Butt Slut Malcolm Van, 2019-07-11 It's going to be a rough, raunchy ride for Decker when his dorm mates Simon and Molokai suggest he sell his ass at the beach to any and every man willing to pay. The goal is to raise money for girls, sex, and drugs to entertain his door mates over summer, but the real fun is all reserved for Decker, who must prepare his ass to become an open and willing cumdump for all of the beach's sexy, slutty men!On the day before the beach gangbang, Decker's roommates give him an assignment - to have anal sex with as many men as possible in order to loosen him up enough for the pounding he'll receive on the beach. Through this assignment, Decker meets Jorge at the gym - a guy from his class who offers to spot him on the weight bench as well as in the shower! There, he also meets two burly bears who finish him off with a hot split-roast and a lot of piss play.Follow along with Decker as he further prepares his hungry ass by claiming the virginity of a comic book geek and nabbing some big black cock on the basketball court, all in anticipation of his upcoming gangbang on the beach!But, when the big day comes, will all go according to plan, or will Decker's hardcore efforts be for nothing? Follow along and discover the shocking climax in this exciting, raunchy first entry of the perverted new 'Fully Loaded Creampie Adventures' series! From golden showers to fisting, to piercings and foreskin, to getting erotically cussed out in Spanish, Decker and his ass will never be the same!'Smutty Literary Porn' books are erotic books for adults only! Read at your own risk! If you want a book with a deep, involved plot, sorry... we can't help you. But we CAN give you 'Fully Loaded Creampie Adventures!' |
| how to be a slut: This is what a Feminist Slut Looks Like Alyssa Teekah, Erika Jane Scholz, May Friedman, Andrea O'Reilly, 2015 In April 2011, a team of five people put together Slutwalk Toronto, a protest responding to slut shaming and victim blaming culture, exemplified by a recent event at Osgoode Hall Law School at York University. In the name of campus safety, Toronto Police Constable Michael Sanguinetti advised women should avoid dressing like sluts in order to not be victimized. The sentiment of those in the over 3,000 crowd that day were shared by folks around the globe - leading to over 200 Slutwalks internationally and the establishment of Slutwalk organizing groups. This collection engenders a critical engagement with the global phenomenon of the Slutwalk Movement, considering both its strengths and limitations. The chapters take up Slutwalk through a feminist lens (broadly defined) considering Slutwalk as a successful social movement, a site of tremendous controversy, and an ongoing discussion among and between waves of feminists across the life cycle and across the globe. Through poetry, photography, scholarly articles, creative non-fiction, personal essays, the collection seeks to unpack the discursive performance of Slutwalk as well as explore the experiences of people who attended various and diverse Slutwalks marches/protests in North America and Asia.-- |
| how to be a slut: This is what a Feminist Slut Looks Like; Perspectives on the Slutwalk Movement Alyssa Teekah, 2015-04-01 In April 2011, a team of five people put together SlutWalk Toronto, a protest responding to slut shaming and victim blaming culture, exemplified by a recent event at Osgoode Hall Law School at York University. In the name of campus “safety,” Toronto Police Constable Michael Sanguinetti advised “women should avoid dressing like sluts in order to not be victimized.” The sentiment of those in the over 3000 person crowd that day were shared by folks around the globe — leading to over 200 SlutWalks internationally and the establishment of “SlutWalk” organizing groups. This collection engenders a critical engagement with the global phenomenon of the SlutWalk movement, considering both its strengths and limitations. The chapters take up SlutWalk through a feminist lens (broadly defined) considering SlutWalk as a successful social movement, a site of tremendous controversy, and an ongoing discussion among and between waves of feminists across the life cycle and across the globe. Through poetry, photography, scholarly articles, creative non-fiction, personal essays, the collection seeks to unpack the discursive performance of SlutWalk as well as explore the experiences of people who attended various and diverse SlutWalks marches/protests in North America and Asia. |
| how to be a slut: Slut Lullabies Gina Frangello, 2013-10-18 Following her debut novel, My Sister's Continent, which delved “fearlessly into questions of identity, abuse…trust, trespass, and delusion” (Booklist), Gina Frangello continues her exploration of the power dynamics of gender, class, and sexuality in this collection of diverse, vibrant short fiction. Slut Lullabies is unsettling. Like the experience of reading a private diary, these stories leave one feeling slightly traitorous while also imprinting a deep recognition of truths you did not know you felt.It is through beauty, horror, humor and chaos that Frangello has managed to pull these ten stories out of her deep understanding of the human experience. A gay Latino man whose pious relatives are boycotting his 'commitment ceremony' becomes caught up in hypocrisy and splendor when his lover's Waspy mother hires a glitzy wedding coordinator; a precocious girl seduces her teacher in order to blackmail him into funding her young stepmother's escape from their violent home; a wife turns to infidelity and drugs to distract her from chronic pain following an accident; a teenage boy attempts atonement in Amsterdam after having exploited his naive girlfriend at home; and a socialite must confront her dark past as her husband's deterioration from Huntington's Disease destroys both her bank account and social standing.Each insightfully drawn, deeply felt character moves delicately amid the despair and wreckage of ordinary life, but always towards hope. And Frangello's oddly uplifting voice acts as the unifying thread, drawing out a beauty and dimension which demands both our criticism and our empathy. |
| how to be a slut: Thriving in Non-Monogamy An Ethical Slut's Guide Erin Davidson RCC, MA, 2020-10-13 Enjoy the healing power of pleasure as you reflect on your ideal relationship We are all deserving and capable of enjoying fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships. Thriving in Non-Monogamy will guide you through the process of getting in touch with your inner ethical slut, evaluating relationship values, honoring your needs and fears, and developing the tools to build relationships that work best for you. Whether that means ethically opening up or improving a monogamous arrangement, this ethical slut handbook provides stories from people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship arrangements who confront their unmet needs, insecurities, internalized trauma, and struggles with open relationships. You'll also find reflection questions to help you approach your own arrangement with curiosity, openness, and compassion. Learn about the principles of being an ethical slut with: No judgment—Thriving in Non-Monogamy breaks down the shame surrounding negative messages that are internalized about sex and relationships. Learning limits—Includes a guide to an ethical slut setting boundaries and rules within open relationships. Thoughtful reflections—Challenge yourself to identify and process difficult emotions and improve relationship communication skills. Ethical slut may sound like an oxymoron, but it is a way of thinking that can teach you to overcome jealousy, enjoy sex, and honor yourself. |
| how to be a slut: Gutter Slut: Adult Coloring Book Randy Johnson, 2017-06-12 Be Honest, Some People Suck! Unique gift, lots of fun! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ The colorists have spoken! (Thank you happy customers!!) Work? Neighbors? Pets? Kids? They all love to stress you out. Don't bottle it up, color what you want to say! With 50 designs, we've got any curse, swear, or putdown you can imagine, ready to fucking color! Express how you really feel about your boss, bad grades, your neighbor or the DMV. Color your way to less stress! Color to your fucking hearts content! You will LOVE this Adult Coloring Book. Why? You'll receive: 🖼 Beautiful Designs: 50 Beautiful and Unique Designs to Color! 🎨 Plenty of Options: Dozens of coloring pages designed for adults 💆♀️ Easy Relaxation: Each coloring page is designed to help relax and inspire 👩🎨 Perfect for Anyone: The variety of pages ensure something for every skill level 🖍 You Choose: Use your choice of coloring tool (pens, pencils, markers, crayons) 👍🏼 Single-sided Pages: Each coloring page is on a separate sheet 🎁 A Great Gift: Makes a perfect gag gift for Christmas Holidays, Birthday and Mothers day. (Remember to pickup some colored pencils!) Buy Now & Get the relaxation you deserve! 🧘♀️ Not reasonable for any laughing, smiles, total zen, or beautifully framed pictures. 😉 |
| how to be a slut: How to Beat A Woman at Her Own Games Ralph Hemphill, 2020-09-01 In today's world, much unlike the world of long ago, before the 1980s--where women probably and seemingly didn't play as many games and didn't scheme as much as the women of today--one can clearly see, witness, and attest to the ever-present and overwhelming amount of game playing and scheming ways of most of the females we know, know of, see, and interact with on a day-to-day basis. Most every man, at one point or some point in his life, has fallen victim to a game or scheme of a female whom he has either tried to get with or hook up with, and many guys get hit with games and schemes even with those that they are married to or in relationships with. Practically no man is exempt. We all at some point will find ourselves faced with a woman whose sole purpose is to either go for what's in our pockets or bank accounts, or to try to get us to do something for them for free or to get us to buy them stuff without them appreciating it and then turning around and buying us stuff too as well. That's a big part of the world we live in as far as men interacting with women, and the sole purpose of this book is to at least get guys to recognize when they are being played and to not fall for the simple games that women play twenty-four hours a day. |
| how to be a slut: Slut-Shaming, Whorephobia, and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution Meredith Ralston, 2021-06-16 The sexual revolution is unfinished. A sexual double standard between men and women still exists, and society continues to punish bad girls and reward good ones. Until we eliminate good-girl privilege and bad-girl stigma, women will not be fully free to embrace their sexuality. In Slut-Shaming, Whorephobia, and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution Meredith Ralston looks at the common denominators between the #MeToo movement, the myths of rape culture, and the pleasure gap between men and women to reveal the ways that sexually liberated women threaten the patriarchy. Weaving in history, pop culture, philosophy, interviews with sex workers, and personal anecdotes, Ralston shows how women cannot achieve sexual equality until the sexual double standard and good girl/bad girl binary are eliminated and women viewed by society as whores are destigmatized. Illustrating how women's sexuality is policed by both men and women, she argues that women must be allowed the same personal autonomy as men: the freedom to make sexual decisions for themselves, to obtain orgasm equality, and to insist on their own sexual pleasure. Dispelling the myth that all sex workers are victims and all clients are violent, Slut-Shaming, Whorephobia, and the Unfinished Sexual Revolution calls out Western society's hypocrisy about sex and shows how stigma and the marginalization of sex workers harms all women. |
The Trials and Tribulations of Being a ‘Slut’ – Ethical,Psychological ...
What exactly do you mean, if you talk about being an ‘ethical slut’? A slut is a person that celebrates sexual connection with a variety of partners. Why should that be an insult? Why should that not be a compliment? The ethical aspect is also very important to us.
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What kind of person would revel in calling himself a slut? And why would he insist on being recognized for his ethics? In most of the world, "slut" is a highly offensive term, used to …
I’d Rather Be a Slut: An Analysis of Stigmatized Virginity in ...
explicitly stated: “I’d rather be judged for [being a slut] than being a virgin.” The fact that Rachel would rather be a “slut” than a virgin demonstrates this shift in sexual culture, in which the …
Stomp & Holler Because We’ve Had Enough! The Transformation …
Since the “I’m Not a Slut” defense is a not a cure against being raped, we must overcome our false conviction that disavowing of the “slut” label will keep us safe.
Habits of Leaking: Of Sluts and Network Cards - New York University
From Edward Snowden’s revelations about the u.s. National Security Agency’s (nsa) extensive data collection programs to images of unsuspecting “sluts” that circulate on social media, from …
Pathways of Self-Determination: A Constructivist Grounded
Con-structivist grounded theory was employed to understand how young adults deal with slut-shaming and analyze sociocultural factors involved in slut-shaming dynamics. Several …
Form and Functions of ‘Slut Bashing’ in Male Identity ... - JSTOR
‘slut bashing’ while telling a minimal story about an incident of female promiscu-ity. The analysis proceeds microanalytically in a three-step procedure that de-tails the positions taken by the …
List of Penis Terms (in order of production) - Stanford University
Slut slayer Lil' Buddy Lil' Friend Halfmast Tool Drill Hammer Screwdriver Screw Nail Joystick Elevator Floppy Drive Hard Drive Hardware Gearshift The worm Bookworm Basalisk Wand …
The Selfie and the Slut: Bodies, Technology and Public Shame
selfie-shaming and the subsequent processes of "slut shaming", it argues that we need to think of selfies not only as cultural artefacts but also as born digital objects to show how it produces …
He is a Stud, She is a Slut! A Meta-Analysis on the ... - SAGE Journals
He is a Stud, She is a Slut! A Meta-Analysis on the Continued Existence of Sexual Double Standards Joyce J. Endendijk1, Anneloes L. van Baar1, and Maja Deković1 Abstract …
Representing SlutWalk London in Mass and Social Media: …
blaming and slut shaming, it carried the promise of a renewed feminist politics. Focusing on SlutWalk London, this study examines representations and self-representations of the protest …
The Slut‐Shaming Instrument: Preliminary validation, correlates, …
Using data from a sample of 202 girls from Québec, Canada (ages 14– 17; 68% White), preliminary validation is provided for the Slut- Shaming Instrument, a seven- item measure of …
‘My Dress Is Not a Yes’: subversion and the SlutWalk message
2 May 2013 · Young women and girls experience ‘slut scrutiny’ (Islam, 2011), and SlutWalk subverted the double standard and challenged the category and historicity of ‘slut’ as hate …
From SlutWalks to SuicideGirls: Feminist Resistance
concretize the concept of "slut" as scantily clad, sexually immoral women. Moreover, these actions ultimately displace the somber and deadly issues of rape, domestic violence, sexual …
Prominence of Slut Shaming Connected with Sexual …
being slut shamed and which types of behaviors prompt perpetrators to engage in slut shaming. Examining the relation between slut shaming behaviors and a tendency to engage in sexual …
Feminist Digilante Responses to a Slut-Shaming on Facebook
In this article, I show that feminist digilantism has become increasingly visible, forceful, and, in some ways, effective, as gendered cyberhate has become more prevalent and nox-ious.
Workplace Rumors About Women's Sexual Promiscuity as - JSTOR
15 Aug 2015 · This Article focuses primarily on cases involving sexual rumors about women because female plaintiffs file the vast majority of Title VII sexual rumor cases. The au- rumors …
Stigma and Shame Experiences by MSM Who Take PrEP for HIV …
PrEP-related stigma and shaming are potential barriers to uptake and retention in PrEP programs. There is a lack of literature describing PrEP stigma. In order to fill this gap, we recruited online …
Feminism, Neoliberalism, and SlutWalk - JSTOR
to negotiate the fictional line between slut and sexy and little, if any, option of self-presenting as "virgin" rather than whore. Powerful statements from women of color have objected to …
Bengal Blackie and the Sacred Slut: A Sahajayāna Buddhist Song
The 'slut' or 'dombi' refers to a woman of the despised, low Dom caste-they earned their living as laundresses, vendors and prostitutes. Kanha calls the dombi a 'whore' (cchinal), a 'woman of …
The Trials and Tribulations of Being a ‘Slut’ – Ethical,Psychological ...
What exactly do you mean, if you talk about being an ‘ethical slut’? A slut is a person that celebrates sexual connection with a variety of partners. Why should that be an insult? Why should that not be a compliment? The ethical aspect is also very important to us.
Page 1 of 220 - Internet Archive
What kind of person would revel in calling himself a slut? And why would he insist on being recognized for his ethics? In most of the world, "slut" is a highly offensive term, used to describe a woman whose sexuality is voracious, indiscriminate and shameful. It's interesting to note that the analogous word "stud," used to describe a highly
I’d Rather Be a Slut: An Analysis of Stigmatized Virginity in ...
explicitly stated: “I’d rather be judged for [being a slut] than being a virgin.” The fact that Rachel would rather be a “slut” than a virgin demonstrates this shift in sexual culture, in which the implications of being a virgin are worse than being a “slut."
Stomp & Holler Because We’ve Had Enough! The Transformation of SlutWalks
Since the “I’m Not a Slut” defense is a not a cure against being raped, we must overcome our false conviction that disavowing of the “slut” label will keep us safe.
Habits of Leaking: Of Sluts and Network Cards - New York University
From Edward Snowden’s revelations about the u.s. National Security Agency’s (nsa) extensive data collection programs to images of unsuspecting “sluts” that circulate on social media, from WikiLeaks to Facebook disasters, we are confronted everywhere with leaks.
Pathways of Self-Determination: A Constructivist Grounded
Con-structivist grounded theory was employed to understand how young adults deal with slut-shaming and analyze sociocultural factors involved in slut-shaming dynamics. Several individual, social and cultural factors are involved in sexual stigmatization processes.
Form and Functions of ‘Slut Bashing’ in Male Identity ... - JSTOR
‘slut bashing’ while telling a minimal story about an incident of female promiscu-ity. The analysis proceeds microanalytically in a three-step procedure that de-tails the positions taken by the young participants during the interaction. First, I analyze how the story characters are positioned in story time and story space.
List of Penis Terms (in order of production) - Stanford University
Slut slayer Lil' Buddy Lil' Friend Halfmast Tool Drill Hammer Screwdriver Screw Nail Joystick Elevator Floppy Drive Hard Drive Hardware Gearshift The worm Bookworm Basalisk Wand Sword Boomerang Hot pocket Shaft Cyclops Knight WMD Weiner Hot dog. Popsicle Lollipop Kielbalsa Stick Ice Cream Cone Morning Wood The Colonel The Lieutenant
The Selfie and the Slut: Bodies, Technology and Public Shame
selfie-shaming and the subsequent processes of "slut shaming", it argues that we need to think of selfies not only as cultural artefacts but also as born digital objects to show how it produces new regimes of control and visibility of women's bodies online. Drawing from software studies, cyber-feminism and digital cultures,
He is a Stud, She is a Slut! A Meta-Analysis on the ... - SAGE Journals
He is a Stud, She is a Slut! A Meta-Analysis on the Continued Existence of Sexual Double Standards Joyce J. Endendijk1, Anneloes L. van Baar1, and Maja Deković1 Abstract (Hetero)sexual double standards (SDS) entail that different sexual behaviors are appropriate for men and women. This
Representing SlutWalk London in Mass and Social Media: …
blaming and slut shaming, it carried the promise of a renewed feminist politics. Focusing on SlutWalk London, this study examines representations and self-representations of the protest in British national newspapers, blogs and Tumblr posts to explore how this promise has been negotiated in the contemporary media space.
The Slut‐Shaming Instrument: Preliminary validation, correlates, …
Using data from a sample of 202 girls from Québec, Canada (ages 14– 17; 68% White), preliminary validation is provided for the Slut- Shaming Instrument, a seven- item measure of negative peer experiences related to being perceived …
‘My Dress Is Not a Yes’: subversion and the SlutWalk message
2 May 2013 · Young women and girls experience ‘slut scrutiny’ (Islam, 2011), and SlutWalk subverted the double standard and challenged the category and historicity of ‘slut’ as hate speech through post- feminist rhetoric, direct action and parody.
From SlutWalks to SuicideGirls: Feminist Resistance
concretize the concept of "slut" as scantily clad, sexually immoral women. Moreover, these actions ultimately displace the somber and deadly issues of rape, domestic violence, sexual abuse, and street harassment.
Prominence of Slut Shaming Connected with Sexual …
being slut shamed and which types of behaviors prompt perpetrators to engage in slut shaming. Examining the relation between slut shaming behaviors and a tendency to engage in sexual objectification may provide insight into ways to reduce both behaviors.
Feminist Digilante Responses to a Slut-Shaming on Facebook
In this article, I show that feminist digilantism has become increasingly visible, forceful, and, in some ways, effective, as gendered cyberhate has become more prevalent and nox-ious.
Workplace Rumors About Women's Sexual Promiscuity as - JSTOR
15 Aug 2015 · This Article focuses primarily on cases involving sexual rumors about women because female plaintiffs file the vast majority of Title VII sexual rumor cases. The au- rumors comprised all or part of the alleged sexually harassing conduct. Only six cases. involved allegations by male plaintiffs that they had been the subjects of sexual rumors.
Stigma and Shame Experiences by MSM Who Take PrEP for HIV …
PrEP-related stigma and shaming are potential barriers to uptake and retention in PrEP programs. There is a lack of literature describing PrEP stigma. In order to fill this gap, we recruited online 43 HIV-negative Men who have Sex with Men (MSM) who use PrEP.
Feminism, Neoliberalism, and SlutWalk - JSTOR
to negotiate the fictional line between slut and sexy and little, if any, option of self-presenting as "virgin" rather than whore. Powerful statements from women of color have objected to SlutWalk on the grounds that women of color have been historically configured and concretely exploited as always already slut and thus unrapeable.
Bengal Blackie and the Sacred Slut: A Sahajayāna Buddhist Song
The 'slut' or 'dombi' refers to a woman of the despised, low Dom caste-they earned their living as laundresses, vendors and prostitutes. Kanha calls the dombi a 'whore' (cchinal), a 'woman of the lowest caste on account of lust' (kama-cazndal).4 Tantric yogins employed them for the performance of sexual rituals.
