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| gabor mate sleep training: Hold On to Your Kids Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Maté, MD, 2011-11-30 A psychologist with a reputation for penetrating to the heart of complex parenting issues joins forces with a physician and bestselling author to tackle one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our time -- peers replacing parents in the lives of our children. Dr. Neufeld has dubbed this phenomenon peer orientation, which refers to the tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction: for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; its effects are painfully evident in the context of teenage gangs and criminal activity, in tragedies such as in Littleton, Colorado; Tabor, Alberta and Victoria, B.C. It is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evident -- as do the solutions. Hold On to Your Kids will restore parenting to its natural intuitive basis and the parent-child relationship to its rightful preeminence. The concepts, principles and practical advice contained in Hold On to Your Kids will empower parents to satisfy their children’s inborn need to find direction by turning towards a source of authority, contact and warmth. Something has changed. One can sense it, one can feel it, just not find the words for it. Children are not quite the same as we remember being. They seem less likely to take their cues from adults, less inclined to please those in charge, less afraid of getting into trouble. Parenting, too, seems to have changed. Our parents seemed more confident, more certain of themselves and had more impact on us, for better or for worse. For many, parenting does not feel natural. Adults through the ages have complained about children being less respectful of their elders and more difficult to manage than preceding generations, but could it be that this time it is for real? -- from Hold On to Your Kids |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Evolved Nest Darcia Narvaez, PhD, G. A. Bradshaw, PhD, 2023-08-08 A fascinating look into nurturing and parenting in the natural world, supplemented with original illustrations For readers of Becoming Animal and World of Wonders A beautiful resource for Nature advocates, parents-to-be, Animal lovers, and anyone who seeks to restore wellbeing on our planet, The Evolved Nest reconnects us to lessons from the Animal world and shows us how to restore wellness in our families, communities, and lives. Each of 10 chapters explores a different animal’s parenting model, sharing species-specific adaptations that allow each to thrive in their “evolved nests.” You’ll learn: How Wolves build an internal moral compass How Beavers foster a spirit of play in their children How Octopuses develop emotional and social intelligence How, when, and whether (or not) Brown Bears decide to have children What their lessons can teach you--whether you’re a parent, grandparent, caregiver, or childfree Psychologists Drs. Darcia Narvaez and Gay Bradshaw show us how each evolved nest offers inspiration for reexamining our own systems of nurturing, understanding, and caring for our young and each other. Alongside beautiful illustrations, stunning scientific facts, and lessons in neuroscience, psychology, and evolutionary biology, we learn to care deeper: to restore our innate place within the natural world and fight for an ecology of life that supports our flourishing in balance with Nature alongside our human and non-human family. |
| gabor mate sleep training: When the Body Says No Gabor Maté, MD, 2011-02-11 INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER From renowned mental health expert and speaker Dr. Gabor Maté, this acclaimed, bestselling guide provides insight into the mind-body link between illness and health, and the critical role that stress and our emotional makeup play in an array of common diseases. In this accessible and groundbreaking book—filled with the moving stories of real people—medical doctor and bestselling author Gabor Maté shows that emotion and psychological stress play a powerful role in the onset of chronic illness, including breast cancer, prostate cancer, multiple sclerosis, Alzheimer's disease and many others. An international bestseller translated into over thirty languages, When the Body Says No promotes learning and healing, providing transformative insights into how illlness can be the body's way of saying no to what the mind cannot or will not acknowledge. With great compassion and erudition, Dr. Maté demystifies medical science and empowers us all to be our own health advocates. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Myth of Normal Gabor Maté, MD, 2022-09-13 The instant New York Times bestseller By the acclaimed author of In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, a groundbreaking investigation into the causes of illness, a bracing critique of how our society breeds disease, and a pathway to health and healing. In this revolutionary book, renowned physician Gabor Maté eloquently dissects how in Western countries that pride themselves on their healthcare systems, chronic illness and general ill health are on the rise. Nearly 70 percent of Americans are on at least one prescription drug; more than half take two. In Canada, every fifth person has high blood pressure. In Europe, hypertension is diagnosed in more than 30 percent of the population. And everywhere, adolescent mental illness is on the rise. So what is really “normal” when it comes to health? Over four decades of clinical experience, Maté has come to recognize the prevailing understanding of “normal” as false, neglecting the roles that trauma and stress, and the pressures of modern-day living, exert on our bodies and our minds at the expense of good health. For all our expertise and technological sophistication, Western medicine often fails to treat the whole person, ignoring how today’s culture stresses the body, burdens the immune system, and undermines emotional balance. Now Maté brings his perspective to the great untangling of common myths about what makes us sick, connects the dots between the maladies of individuals and the declining soundness of society—and offers a compassionate guide for health and healing. Cowritten with his son Daniel, The Myth Of Normal is Maté’s most ambitious and urgent book yet. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Connected ~ Before Birth & Beyond Randine Mariona, 2021-06-08 Today’s parents are working harder than ever. Never have parents been asked to do so much with such little support. Parents today can feel alone and judged for not doing things right. Randine is a relatable modern parent. She gets the joys and appreciates the challenges of showing up every day to parent. Randine is not afraid to be real. She shares personal stories throughout the book that will capture your heart, make you laugh and bring a tear to your eye demonstrating how well she knows the realities of parenting today. Readers will turn the pages feeling understood, validated and appreciated for who they are and for all of their efforts. Randine demonstrates that caring for parents is caring for children. Randine unlocks what is key to parenting. She captures what decades of clinical and academic training, coupled with raising two boys, has taught her about what matters. Spoiler... the key is not about being perfect. If you are interested in optimizing your child’s development and increasing your confidence and your fulfillment as a parent - Connected ~ Before Birth and Beyond is your next read. Expect to feel energized, inspired and supported. Parents will come away with a deeper awareness and relationship with themselves and their children. What will be different after reading this book? Possibly everything... |
| gabor mate sleep training: Scattered Minds Gabor Maté, MD, 2023-02-07 From renowned mental health expert and speaker Dr. Gabor Maté, Scattered Minds explodes the myth of attention deficit disorder (ADD/ADHD) as genetically based—and offers real hope and advice for children and adults who live with the condition. In this breakthrough guide to understanding, treating, and healing Attention Deficit Disorder, Dr. Gabor Maté, bestselling author of The Myth of Normal, and himself diagnosed with ADD: Demonstrates that the condition is not a genetic “illness” but a response to environmental stress Explains that in ADD, circuits in the brain whose job is emotional self-regulation and attention control fail to develop in infancy – and why Shows how ‘distractibility’ is the psychological product of life experience Allows parents to understand what makes their ADD children tick, and adults with ADD to gain insights into their emotions and behaviors Expresses optimism about neurological development even in adulthood Presents a program of how to promote this development in both children and adults Whereas other books on the subject describe the condition as inherited, Dr. Maté believes that our social and emotional environments play a key role in both the cause of and cure for this condition. In Scattered Minds, he describes the painful realities of ADD and its effect on children as well as on career and social paths in adults. While acknowledging that genetics may indeed play a part in predisposing a person toward ADD, Dr. Maté moves beyond that to focus on the things we can control: changes in environment, family dynamics, and parenting choices. He draws heavily on his own experience with the disorder, as both an ADD sufferer and the parent of diagnosed children. Providing a thorough overview of ADD and its treatments, without blaming anyone, Scattered Minds is essential and life-changing reading for the millions of ADD sufferers in North America today. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Sleeping with Your Baby James Joseph McKenna, 2007 The American Academy of Pediatrics warns parents never to let their baby sleep in an adult bed--contrary to thousands of years of childrearing practices! A worldwide recognized co-sleeping authority wants parents to know that their babies are dramatically safer and healthier when put to bed in a safe, family sleeping environment. Walking readers through the important steps to creating a safe family bed, this book provides the latest information on the scientific benefits of co-sleeping. |
| gabor mate sleep training: In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts Gabor Maté, MD, 2011-06-28 A “thought-provoking and powerful” study that reframes everything you’ve been taught about addiction and recovery—from the New York Times–bestselling author of The Myth of Normal (Bruce Perry, author of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog). A world-renowned trauma expert combines real-life stories with cutting-edge research to offer a holistic approach to understanding addiction—its origins, its place in society, and the importance of self-compassion in recovery. Based on Gabor Maté’s two decades of experience as a medical doctor and his groundbreaking work with people with addiction on Vancouver’s skid row, this #1 international bestseller radically re-envisions a much misunderstood condition by taking a compassionate approach to substance abuse and addiction recovery. In the same vein as Bessel van der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts traces the root causes of addiction to childhood trauma and examines the pervasiveness of addiction in society. Dr. Maté presents addiction not as a discrete phenomenon confined to an unfortunate or weak-willed few, but as a continuum that runs throughout—and perhaps underpins—our society. It is not a medical “condition” distinct from the lives it affects but rather the result of a complex interplay among personal history, emotional and neurological development, brain chemistry, and the drugs and behaviors of addiction. Simplifying a wide array of brain and addiction research findings from around the globe, the book avoids glib self-help remedies, instead promoting a thorough and compassionate self-understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. Dr. Maté argues persuasively against contemporary health, social, and criminal justice policies toward addiction and how they perpetuate the War on Drugs. The mix of personal stories—including the author’s candid discussion of his own “high-status” addictive tendencies—and science with positive solutions makes the book equally useful for lay readers and professionals. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Why We Get Mad Dr. Ryan Martin, 2021-01-12 This is THE book on anger, the first book to explain exactly why we get mad, what anger really is - and how to cope with and use it. Often confused with hostility and violence, anger is fundamentally different from these aggressive behaviours and in fact can be a healthy and powerful force in our lives. What is anger? Who is allowed to be angry? How can we manage our anger? How can we use it? It might seem like a day doesn't go by without some troubling explosion of anger, whether we're shouting at the kids, or the TV, or the driver ahead who's slowing us down. In this book, the first of its kind, Dr. Ryan Martin draws on 20 years plus of research, as well as his own childhood experience of an angry parent, to take an all-round view on this often-challenging emotion. It explains exactly what anger is, why we get angry, how our anger hurts us as well as those around us, and how we can manage our anger and even channel it into positive change. It also explores how race and gender shape society's perceptions of who is allowed to get angry. Dr. Martin offers questionnaires, emotion logs, control techniques and many other tools to help readers understand better what pushes their buttons and what to do with angry feelings when they arise. It shows how to differentiate good anger from bad anger, and reframe anger from being a necessarily problematic experience in our lives to being a fuel that energizes us to solve problems, release our creativity and confront injustice. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Rest, Play, Grow Deborah MacNamara, 2016 Using the relational development approach of Gordon Neufeld, the author offers a road map to making sense of the behavior of young children and understanding their developmental growth. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Boarding School Syndrome Joy Schaverien, 2015-06-05 Boarding School Syndrome is an analysis of the trauma of the 'privileged' child sent to boarding school at a young age. Innovative and challenging, Joy Schaverien offers a psychological analysis of the long-established British and colonial preparatory and public boarding school tradition. Richly illustrated with pictures and the narratives of adult ex-boarders in psychotherapy, the book demonstrates how some forms of enduring distress in adult life may be traced back to the early losses of home and family. Developed from clinical research and informed by attachment and child development theories ‘Boarding School Syndrome’ is a new term that offers a theoretical framework on which the psychotherapeutic treatment of ex-boarders may build. Divided into four parts, History: In the Name of Privilege; Exile and Healing; Broken Attachments: A Hidden Trauma, and The Boarding School Body, the book includes vivid case studies of ex-boarders in psychotherapy. Their accounts reveal details of the suffering endured: loss, bereavement and captivity are sometimes compounded by physical, sexual and psychological abuse. Here, Joy Schaverien shows how many boarders adopt unconscious coping strategies including dissociative amnesia resulting in a psychological split between the 'home self' and the 'boarding school self'. This pattern may continue into adult life, causing difficulties in intimate relationships, generalized depression and separation anxiety amongst other forms of psychological distress. Boarding School Syndrome demonstrates how boarding school may damage those it is meant to be a reward and discusses the wider implications of this tradition. It will be essential reading for psychoanalysts, Jungian analysts, psychotherapists, art psychotherapists, counsellors and others interested in the psychological, cultural and international legacy of this tradition including ex-boarders and their partners. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Amateur Night at the Bubblegum Kittikat Victoria Fedden, 2013-06-13 At twenty-six, frumpy, kindergarten aide Victoria Fedden thought she had the perfect life until her fiance locked her out of her own house and sued her. Forced to return to her family in South Florida, a place where she never felt she fit in, Victoria moved in to her parents' guest room and reluctantly took a job hostessing at The Bubblegum Kittikat, South Florida's klassiest gentlemen's club. This hilarious memoir recounts how working in a strip club helped her recover from her breakup while giving her life and herself a much needed makeover. Amateur Night at the Bubblegum Kittikat demonstrates what miracles can happen when you stop judging yourself and others and step far out of your comfort zone (in five-inch, Lucite heels). |
| gabor mate sleep training: Why Dads Leave Meryn G. Callander, 2012 Contributions by John W. Travis, MD--Cover. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Decode Your Fatigue Alex Howard, 2021-10-12 A practical guide to overcoming chronic fatigue, adrenaline fatigue syndrome and chronic low energy, by a renowned health expert. Get to the root cause of your chronic fatigue diagnosis and discover a clinically proven 12-step plan to healing, recovery and transformation. Living with fatigue can feel hopeless and confusing, with traditional medical approaches focusing on managing symptoms rather than understanding and addressing underlying causes. But healing is possible when you learn to decode your fatigue and apply the right interventions, in the right sequence, at the right time. After suffering from chronic fatigue for seven years, renowned health expert Alex Howard founded one of the world's leading clinics specializing in fatigue, and has dedicated over 20 years to understanding this condition. This book will guide you through a clinically proven methodology to help you to: · Understand the underlying factors that cause fatigue · Discover the key steps to increasing your energy sustainably · Map out your personalized plan for recovery This revolutionary 12-step approach will not only help you to decode your fatigue, but also start to create your own path to healing and transformation. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Attention: A Personal History of Finding Focus (or Trying To) Casey Schwartz, 2020-04-07 A rich inquiry into what it means to pay (and maintain) attention in a world increasingly permeated with distraction and interference.” —Publisher’s Weekly Combining expert storytelling with genuine self-scrutiny, Casey Schwartz details the decade she spend taking Adderall to help her pay attention (or so she thought) and then considers the role of attention in defining our lives as it has been understood by thinkers such as William James, David Foster Wallace, and Simone Weil. From our craving for distraction to our craving for a cure, from Silicon Valley consultants and psychedelic researchers to the findings of trauma expert Dr. Gabor Maté, Schwartz takes us on an eye-opening tour of the modern landscape of attention. Blending memoir, biography, and original reporting, Schwarz examines her attempts to preserve her authentic life and decide what is most important in it. Attention: A Love Story will resonate with readers who want to determine their own minds, away from the siren call of their screens. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Being There Erica Komisar, 2017-04-11 A powerful look at the importance of a mother’s presence in the first years of life **Featured in The Wall Street Journal, and seen on Good Morning America, Fox & Friends, and CBS New York** In this important and empowering book, veteran psychoanalyst Erica Komisar explains why a mother's emotional and physical presence in her child's life--especially during the first three years--gives the child a greater chance of growing up emotionally healthy, happy, secure, and resilient. In other words, when it comes to connecting with your baby or toddler, more is more. Compassionate and balanced, and focusing on the emotional health of children and moms alike, this book shows parents how to give their little ones the best chance for developing into healthy and loving adults. Based on more than two decades of clinical work, established psychoanalytic theory, and the most cutting-edge neurobiological research on caregiving, attachment, and brain development, Being There explains: • How to establish emotional connection with a newborn or young child--regardless of whether you're able to work part-time or stay home • How to ease transitions to minimize stress for your baby or toddler • How to select and train quality childcare • What's true and false about widely held beliefs like I'm not good with babies and “I’ll make up for it when he’s older” • How to recognize and combat feelings of postpartum depression or boredom • Why three months of maternity leave is not long enough--and how parents can take control of their choices to provide for their family's emotional needs in the first three years Being a new mom isn’t easy. But with support, emotional awareness, and coping skills, it can be the most magical—and essential—work we’ll ever do. |
| gabor mate sleep training: In an Unspoken Voice Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., 2012-10-30 Unraveling trauma in the body, brain and mind—a revolution in treatment. Now in 17 languages. In this culmination of his life’s work, Peter A. Levine draws on his broad experience as a clinician, a student of comparative brain research, a stress scientist and a keen observer of the naturalistic animal world to explain the nature and transformation of trauma in the body, brain and psyche. In an Unspoken Voice is based on the idea that trauma is neither a disease nor a disorder, but rather an injury caused by fright, helplessness and loss that can be healed by engaging our innate capacity to self-regulate high states of arousal and intense emotions. Enriched with a coherent theoretical framework and compelling case examples, the book elegantly blends the latest findings in biology, neuroscience and body-oriented psychotherapy to show that when we bring together animal instinct and reason, we can become more whole human beings. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Elevating Child Care Janet Lansbury, 2024-04-30 A modern parenting classic—a guide to a new and gentle way of understanding the care and nurture of infants, by the internationally renowned childcare expert, podcaster, and author of No Bad Kids “An absolute go-to for all parents, therapists, anyone who works with, is, or knows parents of young children.”—Wendy Denham, PhD A Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, Janet Lansbury helps parents look at the world through the eyes of their infants and relate to them as whole people who have natural abilities to learn without being taught. Once we are able to view our children in this light, even the most common daily parenting experiences become stimulating opportunities to learn, discover, and connect with our child. A collection of the most-read articles from Janet’s popular and long-running blog, Elevating Child Care focuses on common infant issues, including: • Nourishing our babies’ healthy eating habits • Calming your clingy, fearful child • How to build your child’s focus and attention span • Developing routines that promote restful sleep Eschewing the quick-fix tips and tricks of popular parenting culture, Lansbury’s gentle, insightful guidance lays the foundation for a closer, more fulfilling parent-child relationship, and children who grow up to be authentic, confident, successful adults. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Collapse of Parenting Leonard Sax, 2024-10-01 In this New York Times bestseller, one of America’s premier physicians offers a must-read account of the new challenges facing parents today and a program for how we can better prepare our children to navigate the obstacles they face In The Collapse of Parenting, internationally acclaimed author Leonard Sax argues that rising levels of obesity, depression, and anxiety among young people can be traced to parents abdicating their authority. The result is children who have no standard of right and wrong, who lack discipline, and who look to their peers and the Internet for direction. Sax shows how parents must reassert their authority - by limiting time with screens, by encouraging better habits at the dinner table, and by teaching humility and perspective - to renew their relationships with their children. Drawing on nearly thirty years of experience as a family physician and psychologist, along with hundreds of interviews with children, parents, and teachers, Sax offers a blueprint parents can use to help their children thrive in an increasingly complicated world. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Emotional Life of the Toddler Alicia F. Lieberman, 2017-12-12 Now updated with new material throughout, Alicia F. Lieberman’s The Emotional Life of the Toddler is the, detailed look into the varied and intense emotional life of children aged one to three. Anyone who has followed an active toddler around for a day knows that a child of this age is a whirlwind of explosive, contradictory, and ever-changing emotions. Alicia F. Lieberman offers an in-depth examination of toddlers’ emotional development and illuminates how to optimize this crucial stage so that toddlers can develop into emotionally healthy children and adults. Drawing on her lifelong research, Dr. Lieberman addresses commonly asked questions and issues. Why, for example, is “no” often the favorite response of the toddler? How should parents deal with the anger they might feel when their toddler is being aggressively stubborn? Why does a crying toddler run to his mother for a hug only to push himself vigorously away as soon as she begins to embrace him? This updated edition also addresses 21st-century concerns such as how to handle screen time on devices and parenting in a post-internet world. Hailed as “groundbreaking” by The Boston Globe after its initial publication, the new edition includes the latest research on this crucial stage of development. With the help of numerous examples and vivid cases, Lieberman answers these and other questions, providing, in the process, a rich, insightful profile of the roller coaster emotional world of the toddler. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Chimp Paradox Steve Peters, 2013-05-30 Your inner Chimp can be your best friend or your worst enemy...this is the Chimp Paradox Do you sabotage your own happiness and success? Are you struggling to make sense of yourself? Do your emotions sometimes dictate your life? Dr. Steve Peters explains that we all have a being within our minds that can wreak havoc on every aspect of our lives—be it business or personal. He calls this being the chimp, and it can work either for you or against you. The challenge comes when we try to tame the chimp, and persuade it to do our bidding. The Chimp Paradox contains an incredibly powerful mind management model that can help you be happier and healthier, increase your confidence, and become a more successful person. This book will help you to: —Recognize how your mind is working —Understand and manage your emotions and thoughts —Manage yourself and become the person you would like to be Dr. Peters explains the struggle that takes place within your mind and then shows you how to apply this understanding. Once you're armed with this new knowledge, you will be able to utilize your chimp for good, rather than letting your chimp run rampant with its own agenda. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Being Visual Bette Fetter, 2012-09-04 Is your creative, intelligent, vibrant child struggling in school? Did you have a similar experience when you were in school? You or your child may be visual learners. In a test heavy education system, more and more children are underachieving, feeling lost and misunderstood. Because, schools are focused on teaching left-brain auditory learners and our right-brain visual kids are not getting what they need to succeed. In Being Visual, Bette Fetter, the founder of Young Rembrandts, discusses strategies to increase your visual learner’s success in school, identifying how… To use pictures to improve grades To use visual study techniques To use effective writing strategies To apply visual methods for students with ADD, dyslexia and autism Why drawing, doodling and imagery improves learning How art improves education outcomes Fetter also presents a fresh case for art class as a critical must-have for students dependent on their visual skills to learn. For over 20 Years, Young Rembrandts has helped tens of thousands of visual-spatial students reach their potential in the arts as well as the classroom. Training in the technical skills of art provides tools for creative endeavors, while developing essential visual skills and learning activities in all children. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Sleeping Like a Baby Himani Dalmia, Neha Bhatt, 2021-11-22 Sleeping Like a Baby serves as the ultimate bedside companion for parents, packed with all the modern tools you need to build a stronger connection with your children and enable age-appropriate sleep for their optimum growth. The book does the seemingly impossible: blending traditional wisdom and the latest research, it gives us a revolutionary approach to achieve longer naps, better night sleep with fewer wakings, a happier baby and more joy and rest as a family, without resorting to fraught practices like 'sleep training'. With anecdotal insights, deep research and practical tips in an Indian context, this book empowers parents to tune into their instincts and understand a child's cues so that bedtime battles, cranky days and sleepless nights are a thing of the past. Authored by the co-founders running the pioneering Facebook group Gentle Baby Sleep India, Sleeping Like a Baby shares the secret sauce that enables a family-no matter its structure or pressures-to keep the child's evolutionary and biological sleep needs in focus. Endorsed by some of the most eminent child sleep experts and written in a style that is deceptively simple and accessible, Sleeping Like a Baby is the final word on responsive and restful sleep for caregiver and baby. All night long. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Trauma and Addiction Tian Dayton, 2010-01-01 For the past decade, author Tian Dayton has been researching trauma and addiction, and how psychodrama (or sociometry group psychotherapy) can be used in their treatment. Since trauma responses are stored in the body, a method of therapy that engages the body through role play can be more effective in accessing the full complement of trauma-related memories. This latest book identifies the interconnection of trauma and addictive behavior, and shows why they can become an unending cycle. Emotional and psychological pain so often lead to self-medicating, which leads to more pain, and inevitably more self-medicating, and so on--ad infinitum. This groundbreaking book offers readers effective ways to work through their traumas in order to heal their addictions and their predilection toward what clinicians call self-medicating (the abuse of substances [alcohol, drugs, food], activities [work, sex, gambling, etc.] and/or possessions [money, material things].) Readers caught up in the endless cycle of trauma and addiction will permanently transform their lives by reading this book. Therapists treating patients for whom no other avenue of therapy has proved effective will find that this book offers practical, lasting solutions. Case studies and examples of this behavioral phenomenon will illustrate the connection, helping readers understand its dynamics, recognize their own situations and realize that they are not alone in experiencing this syndrome. The author deftly combines the longstanding trauma theories of Van der Kolk, Herman, Bowlby, Krystal and others with her own experiential methods using psychodrama, sociometry and group therapy in the treatment of addiction and posttraumatic stress disorder. While designed to be useful to therapists, this book will also be accessible to trade readers. It includes comprehensive references, as well as a complete index. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Craving Mind Judson Brewer, 2017-03-07 A leading neuroscientist and pioneer in the study of mindfulness explains why addictions are so tenacious and how we can learn to conquer them We are all vulnerable to addiction. Whether it’s a compulsion to constantly check social media, binge eating, smoking, excessive drinking, or any other behaviors, we may find ourselves uncontrollably repeating. Why are bad habits so hard to overcome? Is there a key to conquering the cravings we know are unhealthy for us? This book provides groundbreaking answers to the most important questions about addiction. Dr. Judson Brewer, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist who has studied the science of addictions for twenty years, reveals how we can tap into the very processes that encourage addictive behaviors in order to step out of them. He describes the mechanisms of habit and addiction formation, then explains how the practice of mindfulness can interrupt these habits. Weaving together patient stories, his own experience with mindfulness practice, and current scientific findings from his own lab and others, Dr. Brewer offers a path for moving beyond our cravings, reducing stress, and ultimately living a fuller life. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Mayo Clinic Guide to Stress-Free Living Amit Sood, Mayo Clinic, 2013-12-24 In this book, Amit Sood, M.D., M.Sc., a Mayo Clinic specialist in stress and resiliency, reveals how the mind's instinctive restlessness and shortsightedness generate stress and anxiety and presents strategies for living a more peaceful life. Have you ever driven several miles without noticing anything on the road, or read a page in a book without registering any of it? Do the day's worries and disappointments crowd your mind as you're trying to fall asleep at night? Do you feel stressed much of the time and aren't sure how to find peace? This book is based on the highly popular stress management program offered at Mayo Clinic that Dr. Sood developed after two decades of work with tens of thousands of people. Drawing on groundbreaking brain research, Dr. Sood helps you understand the brain's two modes and how an imbalance between them produces unwanted stress. From this basis, you learn skills that will help you: Develop deep and sustained attentionPractice gratitude, compassion and acceptanceLive a meaningful lifeCultivate nurturing relationshipsAchieve your highest potential All of these concepts are weaved into a practical and fun journey that has been tested in numerous scientific studies, with consistently positive results. Take the first step to discover greater peace and joy for you and your loved ones. Dr. Sood has put together a simple, secular and structured program that is anchored in science, is free of rituals and dogmas, and is accessible to everyone. This book can change your life. -- Dr. Andrew Weil An important innovative approach to well-being, one we all should know about. -- Dr. Daniel Goleman |
| gabor mate sleep training: Beyond Addiction Jeffrey Foote, Carrie Wilkens, Nicole Kosanke, Stephanie Higgs, 2014-02-18 The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. The most innovative leaders in progressive addiction treatment in the US offer a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors. Beyond Addiction eschews the theatrics of interventions and tough love to show family and friends how they can use kindness, positive reinforcement, and motivational and behavioral strategies to help their loved ones change. Drawing on forty collective years of research and decades of clinical experience, the authors present the best practical advice science has to offer. Delivered with warmth, optimism, and humor, Beyond Addiction defines a new, empowered role for friends and family and a paradigm shift for the field. Learn how to tap the transformative power of relationships for positive change, guided by exercises and examples. Practice what really works in therapy and in everyday life, and discover many different treatment options along with tips for navigating the system. And have hope: this guide is designed not only to help someone change, but to help someone want to change. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters Sarah Ockwell-Smith, 2016-03 Parenting at night is as important as parenting during daylight hours, and yet when our children wake up at night we often label this a sleep 'problem'. Why Your Baby's Sleep Matters is a comprehensive discussion of night-time nurturing, dispelling common myths surrounding how infant and child sleep 'should' be in a gentle and informative way. |
| gabor mate sleep training: White Fragility Dr. Robin DiAngelo, 2018-06-26 The New York Times best-selling book exploring the counterproductive reactions white people have when their assumptions about race are challenged, and how these reactions maintain racial inequality. In this “vital, necessary, and beautiful book” (Michael Eric Dyson), antiracist educator Robin DiAngelo deftly illuminates the phenomenon of white fragility and “allows us to understand racism as a practice not restricted to ‘bad people’ (Claudia Rankine). Referring to the defensive moves that white people make when challenged racially, white fragility is characterized by emotions such as anger, fear, and guilt, and by behaviors including argumentation and silence. These behaviors, in turn, function to reinstate white racial equilibrium and prevent any meaningful cross-racial dialogue. In this in-depth exploration, DiAngelo examines how white fragility develops, how it protects racial inequality, and what we can do to engage more constructively. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma Laurence Heller, Ph.D., Brad J. Kammer, LMFT, 2022-07-26 A practical step-by-step guide and follow-up companion to Healing Developmental Trauma--presenting one of the first comprehensive models for addressing complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) The NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) is an integrated mind-body framework that focuses on relational, attachment, developmental, cultural, and intergenerational trauma. NARM helps clients resolve C-PTSD, recover from adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), and facilitate post-traumatic growth. Inspired by cutting-edge trauma-informed research on attachment, developmental psychology, and interpersonal neurobiology, The Practical Guide for Healing Developmental Trauma provides counselors, psychotherapists, psychologists, social workers, and trauma-sensitive helping professionals with the theoretical background and practical skills they need to help clients transform complex trauma. It explains: The four pillars of the NARM therapeutic model Cultural and transgenerational trauma Shock vs. developmental trauma How to effectively address ACEs and support relational health How to differentiate NARM from other approaches to trauma treatment NARM's organizing principles and how to integrate the program into your clinical practice |
| gabor mate sleep training: Recovery-Oriented Cognitive Therapy for Serious Mental Health Conditions Aaron T. Beck, Paul Grant, Ellen Inverso, Aaron P. Brinen, Dimitri Perivoliotis, 2020-12-08 This book can help you develop a spirited savvy in recovery-oriented cognitive therapy over the course of fifteen chapters, which we have organized into three parts: The first six chapters in Part I introduce you to recovery-oriented cognitive therapy, the basic model and how it works. Building on the basics, the five chapters in Part II extend understanding, strategy, and intervention to the challenges that have historically gotten the person stuck: negative symptoms, delusions, hallucinations, communication challenges, trauma, self-injury, aggressive behavior, and substance use. The final four chapters in Part III delve deeper into specific settings and applications - individual therapy, therapeutic milieu, group therapy, and families-- |
| gabor mate sleep training: Radical Compassion Tara Brach, 2019-12-31 One of the most beloved and trusted mindfulness teachers in America offers a lifeline for difficult times: the RAIN meditation, which awakens our courage and heart Tara Brach is an in-the-trenches teacher whose work counters today's ever-increasing onslaught of news, conflict, demands, and anxieties--stresses that leave us rushing around on auto-pilot and cut off from the presence and creativity that give our lives meaning. In this heartfelt and deeply practical book, she offers an antidote: an easy-to-learn four-step meditation that quickly loosens the grip of difficult emotions and limiting beliefs. Each step in the meditation practice (Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture) is brought to life by memorable stories shared by Tara and her students as they deal with feelings of overwhelm, loss, and self-aversion, with painful relationships, and past trauma--and as they discover step-by-step the sources of love, forgiveness, compassion, and deep wisdom alive within all of us. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Baby Sleep Book Martha Sears, James Sears, William Sears, Robert W. Sears, 2008-12-14 Everything you need to know about getting your baby or toddler to sleep -- from America's foremost baby and childcare experts. Babies don't automatically know how to sleep through the night; they need to be taught. The Sears family has learned from decades of pediatric practice, bolstered by their own parenting experiences, that different babies have different nighttime temperaments -- and, of course, different families have different lifestyles. Instead of espousing the kind of one method fits all approach advocated in other baby sleep guides, the Sears family explains how you can create a sleep plan that suits the needs of your entire family. With a sharp focus on the practical tools and techniques, The Baby Sleep Book covers such topics as: The facts of infant sleep vs. adult sleep Figuring out where, when, and how your child sleeps best Fail-safe methods for soothing a crying infant How to make night nursing easier, and how to stop Nighttime fathering tips Whether co-sleeping makes sense for you Nap-time strategies that work Medical and physical causes of night waking Sleep habits in special situations such as traveling, teething, and illness |
| gabor mate sleep training: Holistic Sleep Coaching: Gentle Alternatives to Sleep Training for Health and Childcare Professionals Lyndsey Hookway, 2018-09-04 Lyndsey Hookway's Holistic Sleep Coaching is the book parent-child health professionals have been waiting for regarding infants', children's, and parents' sleep! The comprehensive content is comprised of an exhaustive review of the sleep literature, but it is written in a reader-friendly discussion format. (References are cited in text with the complete reference list in APA alphabetical style at the end.) I appreciate Hookway's evidence-based approach with its emphasis on human sleep biology. Yet her words constantly model sensitivity and empathy for both babies/children and their parents who live in our current cultural landscape of isolated nuclear families dependent on two incomes and often miles from physical support. -Karen Kerkhoff Gromada, MSN, RN, IBCLC, FILCA Author: Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More There is much to like in Hookway's book, including her clear understanding of the link between breastfeeding and sleeping, and the importance of sleep for parental mental health. Educating practitioners about normal infant sleep is an important task. Too many are only aware of extinction methods for addressing parental sleep concerns: with Holistic Sleep Coaching Hookway is laying the groundwork for the development of a more evidence-based and systematic approach. -Helen Ball, Professor of Anthropology, Director of the Durham Infancy & Sleep Centre (DISC), Founder of the Baby Sleep Info Source (Basis) As a breastfeeding professional, I was curious and hopeful when I began reading Lyndsey Hookway's book, Holistic Sleep Coaching. One of the biggest worries for most new parents is how lack of sleep will impact their family, particularly within the context of breastfeeding. This book is not about training a baby how to sleep, or using dangerous methods that can comprise the breastfeeding relationship. This book IS about understanding how sleep works and how to use that knowledge to understand one's baby. It enables parents to support the uniqueness of their child, continue breastfeeding effectively, and identify how to create the most supportive environment possible to optimize sleep within their distinct family. I would definitely recommend this book as a MUST for new parents before their baby arrives, as well as an integral resource for all perinatal professionals! -Laurel Wilson, IBCLC, RLC, CLE, CLD, CCCECo-Author of The Attachment Pregnancy and The Greatest Pregnancy Ever Infants are probably sleeping no differently now than they were 1000 years ago. However, parenting has changed. We are dealing with the paradox of parenting information overload, coupled with time-poverty. Parents know more than ever about the importance of love, attachment and security to young children. They may know about good nutrition, stress management, toxins, skin to skin, breastfeeding, one-to-one time, emotion coaching and organic food. Parents are bombarded with appliances that are supposed to make their lives easier, and yet end up confused about what is really necessary. At the same time, modern parents are leading busy, expensive lives, and have jobs that they love or need. And within all this, their babies are still sleeping the same as they always have. Some sleep experts are quick to suggest quick fixes to lengthen infant sleep, but there is growing concern that techniques such as extinction may have negative outcomes for infants as well as being stressful for parents. Holistic Sleep Coaching is a multi-dimensional approach that looks at the big picture and recognises that babies' needs are not just physical but psychological, emotional and relational. Holistic Sleep Coaching provides an evidence-based overview of how to optimise sleep without leaving babies and children to cry for health and child care professionals. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Sleep Nanny System Lucy Shrimpton Cgsc, 2015-08-13 Weary of sleep solutions? Abandoned all hope of there being a solution for you and your child? The Sleep Nanny System will support you in finding an approach you can adapt according to your child and family dynamics. Based on a gentle method, with understanding your child at its core, this knowledge will help you form a Unique Sleep Plan. Lucy Shrimpton, certified sleep consultant and mother of two, brings to light the various causes of sleep problems from the perspective of different child temperaments and personalities. Lucy equips you with insights and recommendations for you to tailor a sleep plan that meets your child's unique need through: Highlighting the science behind sleep, providing an in-depth understanding of your child's sleep Use of the Pyramid of Parental Help to help establish an effective training approach Understanding sleep crutches and dummies and how these affect your child's sleeping patterns, including advice on how to ditch the dummy! Providing deeper insight on early risers and contributing factors Shedding light on the importance of naps and adapting these depending on how your child's night-time sleep is affected Re-establishing the importance of a routine and consistency and how to maintain this without upsetting your child. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Body Keeps the Score Bessel A. Van der Kolk, 2015-09-08 Originally published by Viking Penguin, 2014. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Sleep Recovery Lisa Sanfilippo, 2020-01-09 Sleep Recovery gives you the knowledge, tools and resources to repair your own natural ability to rest – starting tonight. If you're suffering from insomnia or interrupted sleep, or waking up feeling un-refreshed, you're not alone. This compassionate and practical guide to recovering your sleep helps you to repair the physical, mental, emotional and energetic habits that may be sabotaging your sleep. You'll find your personal sleep type, put in place healthier habits and re-learn how to rest deeply and easily. You'll find your best pathway to sleep recovery, with results you can see immediately, and that build over time. Includes: simple yoga stretches and powerful breath practices to settle you for a good night's sleep, and super-charge your energy in the morning; restorative yoga postures and mindfulness to give you energy all day; and all the information you need to troubleshoot your lifestyle to support better sleep. The book is illustrated throughout with inspiring line drawings and instructive diagrams. Using the practical wisdom in this book, you'll learn to wake up happier and healthier, at every age and stage in your life. |
| gabor mate sleep training: Baby and Child Care Benjamin Spock, Michael B. Rothenberg, 1985 Baby and child care helped raise and entire generation of Americans. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Conscious Parent Shefali Tsabary, 2014-08-28 THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Conscious parenting is about becoming mindful of your behaviour and engaging with your child as an individual. Dr Tsabary inspires parents to get back in touch with their emotions and shed the layers of baggage they have inherited during their own life and are unconsciously heaping on their children. As they become 'conscious' in their parenting, so parents can transform their relationship with their offspring and raise happy, well-adjusted children. The Conscious Parent is already transforming the way people are parenting through its sales in the US where it's spent 15 weeks on the New York Times bestseller list. Oprah described the book as 'The most profound book on parenting I've ever read' and Eckhart Tolle has said 'becoming a conscious parent is the greatest gift you can give your child.' The book features a foreword by His Holiness The Dalai Lama. |
| gabor mate sleep training: The Myth of Normal Gabor Maté, MD, 2022-09-13 The instant New York Times bestseller By the acclaimed author of In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, a groundbreaking investigation into the causes of illness, a bracing critique of how our society breeds disease, and a pathway to health and healing. In this revolutionary book, renowned physician Gabor Maté eloquently dissects how in Western countries that pride themselves on their healthcare systems, chronic illness and general ill health are on the rise. Nearly 70 percent of Americans are on at least one prescription drug; more than half take two. In Canada, every fifth person has high blood pressure. In Europe, hypertension is diagnosed in more than 30 percent of the population. And everywhere, adolescent mental illness is on the rise. So what is really “normal” when it comes to health? Over four decades of clinical experience, Maté has come to recognize the prevailing understanding of “normal” as false, neglecting the roles that trauma and stress, and the pressures of modern-day living, exert on our bodies and our minds at the expense of good health. For all our expertise and technological sophistication, Western medicine often fails to treat the whole person, ignoring how today’s culture stresses the body, burdens the immune system, and undermines emotional balance. Now Maté brings his perspective to the great untangling of common myths about what makes us sick, connects the dots between the maladies of individuals and the declining soundness of society—and offers a compassionate guide for health and healing. Cowritten with his son Daniel, The Myth Of Normal is Maté’s most ambitious and urgent book yet. |
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